Now it's personal

[Belacqua]

Deconstructing basically amounts to examining the infrastructure of your religious belief system and critically analyzing it for coherence and consistency. The parts that fail get tossed. For many, deconverting is the end result of deconstructing. But not all: My deconstruction resulted in a more coherent and self-consistent biblical world-view.

There is another term for this. We call it "cherry picking". (I'm not trying to be confrontational just pointing out a fact)

If conducted well and honestly, deconstructing a system will discover and eliminate cherry picking. For you to equate the terms either shows ignorance on your part or a desire to insult someone you've just met.

If it turns out later on that the OP is cherry picking, then you should point it out. But your accusation here is unfounded and unfair. And you can't claim it's not confrontational when you've just typed a stupid and unjustified insult. 

https://www.iep.utm.edu/deconst/