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How to avoid losing respect for friends
#21
RE: How to avoid losing respect for friends
The simplest way to keep friends to be a friend. If you are unable to accept a person as he/she is ,without trying to change them,you are not their friend.


I have know my best friend for 40 almost years. We often have a coffee and an argument.I am fairly left wing in a lot of my views,he is very right wing in a lot of his. Our last robust discussion ended when I called him 'a misogynist prick' and we each claimed victory.

However, he is a kind,ethical ,loyal friend who is always there for me,as I am for him..

In my life I have usually been able to work out if I want a person for a friend after a few weeks. Yes, I have dropped friends; for a betrayal of trust . I can and do forgive just about anything else.
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#22
RE: How to avoid losing respect for friends
(April 15, 2012 at 7:28 pm)padraic Wrote: The simplest way to keep friends to be a friend. If you are unable to accept a person as he/she is ,without trying to change them,you are not their friend. I have know my best friend for 40 almost years. We often have a coffee and an argument.I am fairly left wing in a lot of my views,he is very right wing in a lot of his. Our last robust discussion ended when I called him 'a misogynist prick' and we each claimed victory.

I 100% agree but can I ask you, the debates you have would be based on personal view points, in other words, there is no right or wrong, only personal opinion.

I can handle that type of debate, but when there is a definitive right and wrong then it is no longer a debate.

If your friend swore that milk came from chickens he would be wrong. You would try and teach him the truth but he would both refuse to look at the proof and simultaneously insist that he is correct and you are wrong.

Could you handle that or would it effect your friendship?


(April 15, 2012 at 5:09 pm)fr0d0 Wrote:
(April 15, 2012 at 2:30 pm)5thHorseman Wrote: Creation science is not a science, it's a hypothesis with not a hint of evidence to back it up.


A scientific hypothesis. We might agree on the validity of the evidence.

(April 15, 2012 at 2:30 pm)5thHorseman Wrote: It is also not thinking outside the box. Creation science is done by blinkered Christians who want it to be real, but offer nothing in evidence.

I wasn't talking about CS here.

Quote:The United States National Academy of Sciences states that "creation science is in fact not science and should not be presented as such." and that "the claims of creation science lack empirical support and cannot be meaningfully tested."

Like I said, I agree with this. That doesn't alter what CS proponents themselves believe that they are doing, which is using a scientific defence, and never a religious one.

So my point at the OP stands. He rejects a scientific argument, and not a religious one.

I don't have a clue what you are talking about, sorry! I can show you evidence for evolution. We can fly to Iceland and dig and find fossils, then dig deeper and find the same species with a slightly different skeleton and so on until we "SEE" the slight changes over time. Now, what evidence do you have that someone placed all the animals here? Do you think that dogs were around when the dinosaurs were around? I (honestly) don't get it.

14 billion years ago the universe was not created with us in mind. If it was, then He can predict the future. If He can predict the future then why send down Jesus knowing that it would fail and cause war and change nothing?

Humans are unique amoung all living creatures in that they have a concept and understanding of death. We know one day we will die. There may be a handful of other animals with a similar understanding, but it's highly unlikely they will dwell on it as much as we do. The notion of death is understandibly horrifying to most people and for thousands of years we have longed for a way of aquiring endless life. Religion has provided this by offering the story of an immortal soul that lives on even after we perrish.

The problem many people have nowadays is that here is no proof that this immortality exists. Professor Micheo Kaku, one of the worlds most respected physasists commented, "with remarkable claims, we require remarkable proof".

For me, the remarkable claims of a soul and afterlife appear all the more fansiful when we consider how people thought when those claims originated. Even the great thinkers were speculating with little more than guesswork. For example, in the 17th century an Arch Boshop from Dublin decided to pinpoint when time begun, or to be more precise, when God created the world. James Usher spent 20 years reading through a collosal personal library of 10,000 volumes to tie together family trees and historical claims from many different cultures. He finally concluded that the world was created on 22nd October 4004 BC.

We now know this to be totally incorrect. Even with all the knowledge of ancient texts, piled high and studied carefully, we find no reliability in many of the remarkable claims the Bible talks about. As civilisations progress they aquire more and more robust information on just about all aspects of their life and environment. The further back you go, the less information is available and conversly the grander the claims become.

Our need to understand death and our desires to conqour it have driven us to belive in almost anything, so long as it offers hope.
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#23
RE: How to avoid losing respect for friends
(April 15, 2012 at 7:28 pm)padraic Wrote: The simplest way to keep friends to be a friend. If you are unable to accept a person as he/she is ,without trying to change them,you are not their friend.

I never really could get behind this concept of accepting someone without trying to change them. If you love someone and they have qualities that you'd consider undesirable or which might lead them into trouble, why wouldn't you try to change them?

My best friend is smart and has a great sense of adventure. He is also a fool for love - usually falling for unattainable girls. I never fail to criticize that, always pointing out the trouble and pain it has caused in the past. Does being his friend mean I shouldn't try to change something about him that could cause problems in future?
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#24
RE: How to avoid losing respect for friends
My friends beliefs are not my problem. If they are really my friend its not important. If my friendship is at risk because I'm putting pressure on it by forcing my views on others regardless of if I'm right or not, I would be being an asshole.

Discussing it is certainly not a bad thing of course but that shouldn't be your first thought on your friend. I mean with my friend who is extremely racist. I can't stand racism but it almost never comes up. Sometime I worry that it will end badly but I would rather be a good influence that doesn't push the matter than push it to hard and end up losing a friend. That's just me anyway I'm sure people will disagree with me Wink
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#25
RE: How to avoid losing respect for friends
(April 16, 2012 at 10:13 am)Insanity x Wrote: My friends beliefs are not my problem. If they are really my friend its not important. If my friendship is at risk because I'm putting pressure on it by forcing my views on others regardless of if I'm right or not, I would be being an asshole.

Discussing it is certainly not a bad thing of course but that shouldn't be your first thought on your friend. I mean with my friend who is extremely racist. I can't stand racism but it almost never comes up. Sometime I worry that it will end badly but I would rather be a good influence that doesn't push the matter than push it to hard and end up losing a friend. That's just me anyway I'm sure people will disagree with me Wink

The thing is, your friend being racist is totally different because there is no right or wrong. If he thinks black people are bad, then he is correct in that from his point of view that is what is true to him - there is no right or wrong answer.

If, on the other hand, he believes that 90% of all black people commit crimes then he is objectively incorrect. There is evidence to show he is wrong.

Do you see my point. I don't mind peoples opinions, so long as they are based on fact!
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RE: How to avoid losing respect for friends
(April 16, 2012 at 10:20 am)compass Wrote: If, on the other hand, he believes that 90% of all black people commit crimes then he is objectively incorrect. There is evidence to show he is wrong.

Thats the kind of stuff he would tell me.

(April 16, 2012 at 10:20 am)compass Wrote: Do you see my point. I don't mind peoples opinions, so long as they are based on fact!

I see your point but if some of my friends converted to being creationists I would be kinda pissed that they had been tricked but on the other hand they are my friend regardless of how stupid or wrong they are Smile

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#27
RE: How to avoid losing respect for friends
(April 16, 2012 at 9:39 am)compass Wrote: I don't have a clue what you are talking about

Obviously.

I'm not a creationist. Creationism is a scientific slant on religion. If your friend is a creationist then you and he can talk science together.

You disagree with him, and so do I.
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#28
RE: How to avoid losing respect for friends
No fr0d0, creationsim is a religious slant on science.
Even if the open windows of science at first make us shiver after the cozy indoor warmth of traditional humanizing myths, in the end the fresh air brings vigor, and the great spaces have a splendor of their own - Bertrand Russell
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#29
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What's the difference FNM? Smile
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#30
RE: How to avoid losing respect for friends
Our opinions are the least important part of us.
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