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Interfaith Relationships
May 13, 2013 at 8:46 pm
My girlfriend asked me yesterday if we were to ever marry would I get married in a church. It means a lot to her apparently so i said yes because i don't really care where i get married.
Would you guys do the same ? Or are there any amongst us who have experience with this already.
What was it like ? Did it make much of a difference to you?
If you are religious have you married a man/women with no religious views outside of the church ?
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RE: Interfaith Relationships
May 13, 2013 at 9:22 pm
My wife ( a church) and myself (anywhere but a church) decided on a compromise. We got married by a justice of the peace in our home. My father in law sprinkled magic dust all over the proceedings after the fact. Satisfying all pertinent conditions, I would imagine.
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RE: Interfaith Relationships
May 13, 2013 at 9:34 pm
We did but it had nothing to do with my wife who thinks religion is as fucking stupid as I do. We were away in college and left all the arrangements to my mother. I told her we were willing to go to a justice of the peace and she said "I'll handle everything."
All we did is show up and get the fuck out of there as soon as we could.
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RE: Interfaith Relationships
May 13, 2013 at 9:46 pm
I could never marry a woman who was religious, spiritual, crazy or interested in social conventions, so she'd be no more interested in a church wedding than I would. For that matter, I don't understand the point of marriage, either.
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RE: Interfaith Relationships
May 13, 2013 at 10:20 pm
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My wife's family is strongly Catholic(in beliefs more than practice). She considers herself a Catholic, but she does not practice nor does she feel any need to defend her beliefs. Both of her grandmothers, however, are hardcore churchgoers. In order to please them, she wanted to get married in a Catholic church, but when she looked into it(I hadn't agreed to it, but she looked into anyway), the church said I would have to convert to Catholicism. She knew there was no way in hell that was happening, so we made the "compromise" to get married in the church was raised in, which is a very liberal United Methodist church. Honestly, it didn't bother me, because the details of the ceremony weren't important to me. They were extremely important to her, though. When they got to the god stuff, I just had a good chuckle inside my head.
When my son was born, my wife wanted to baptize him, and I was more opposed to that. Ultimately, I gave in, because it's just a silly ceremony where they splash magic water on the kid. I bitched and moaned to my wife the whole time, so that made me feel a little better. I figure I'll save my energy for when my son starts hearing that a man built a giant boat and put two of each animal on it to ride out a storm for forty days.
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RE: Interfaith Relationships
May 13, 2013 at 10:36 pm
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Your kids may surprise you. My oldest daughter already had that story hoisted upon her. She didn't buy it. "That boats too big" she said - not because, in my estimation, she actually understands that it would have been too big-any actual problem...just that my daughter doesn't believe in too many things that are bigger than cars. She still gives me the crooked eye when I tell her that airplanes are bigger than birds...think about it.......
Love that about her.
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RE: Interfaith Relationships
May 13, 2013 at 10:54 pm
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You'll just have to show her an airplane up close someday. 
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RE: Interfaith Relationships
May 13, 2013 at 11:01 pm
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Yeah, she'll lose her shit, she;s in love with my WW2 flight sim, always wants to sit in my lap and fly the planes. Guess I'm gonna have to keep an eye out for pilots with laps someday, fuck.
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RE: Interfaith Relationships
May 14, 2013 at 3:37 am
(May 13, 2013 at 11:01 pm)Rhythm Wrote: Yeah, she'll lose her shit, she;s in love with my WW2 flight sim, always wants to sit in my lap and fly the planes. Guess I'm gonna have to keep an eye out for pilots with laps someday, fuck.
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RE: Interfaith Relationships
May 14, 2013 at 5:42 am
(May 13, 2013 at 8:46 pm)Gnosis Wrote: My girlfriend asked me yesterday if we were to ever marry would I get married in a church. It means a lot to her apparently so i said yes because i don't really care where i get married.
Would you guys do the same ? Or are there any amongst us who have experience with this already.
What was it like ? Did it make much of a difference to you?
If you are religious have you married a man/women with no religious views outside of the church ? I wouldn't marry a non-Christian, I wouldn't marry a Catholic either. As for where we get married, I personally don't care so long as it's shared with the people we presumably love.
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