flaky people

[mostlysilent]

So this is just sort of a little rant because I really got my feelings hurt tonight and now I am upset. What happened is that basically I had plans for tomorrow with a group of people and it was something I was really looking forward to doing. One of my friends that was going to go got sick (which is totally fine and I understand that) but then one by one every one of my other friends bailed out on me. Key here is that the plan is for tomorrow morning and these people just bailed maybe about an hour or so ago. So basically they waited until pretty much the last minute to just say oh well nevermind. I guess it might seem that I am making a big deal of it but this kind of thing just really bothers me and it really hurt my feelings. When I say I am going to do something I am true to my word and I do it. I don't just flake out at the last minute. If something important comes up then yeah I understand that things happen but at least have a good reason. They didn't even give a good reason. I would never do that to someone. If I had to bail I would make sure and apologize and at least explain my reasons. That's all. Thanks for "listening".

[Foxaèr]

It is much better to be anti-social. Then you do not have to be concerned about people disappointing you.

[mostlysilent]

It is much better to be anti-social. Then you do not have to be concerned about people disappointing you.

Yeah I suppose.

But then what about when you disappoint yourself?

[pineapplebunnybounce]

Try someone promising to fly to see you, even bought the tickets, and then not turn up.

Sometimes even good excuses aren't good enough.

Anyway, yea, flakey people.

[mostlysilent]

Try someone promising to fly to see you, even bought the tickets, and then not turn up.

Sometimes even good excuses aren't good enough.

Anyway, yea, flakey people.

Sorry that happened to you.

[pineapplebunnybounce]

Try someone promising to fly to see you, even bought the tickets, and then not turn up.

Sometimes even good excuses aren't good enough.

Anyway, yea, flakey people.

Sorry that happened to you.

Oh wells. You take the flakey part into consideration in a friendship like that.

It's not all bad, now I can always bring it up to get things I want.

[paulpablo]

The best thing to do is be more "social" or at least make a lot of different plans with different people so if one bails out you have another as a back up plan.
In my experience I judge quickly who the flaky people are and normally use them as a back up plan and never put upon them any importance.

I'm in a band right now and luckily the flakiness in the band isn't so much of an issue right now. But it is something that could fuck everything up if it did become an issue.

[Mystical]

I uhh I don't schedule stuff with people on weekends or in mornings and treat all people as if they're flaky just in case.
Cuz im flaky

[Walking Void]

Wait a second... this is NOT about dandruff?

[mostlysilent]

The best thing to do is be more "social" or at least make a lot of different plans with different people so if one bails out you have another as a back up plan.
In my experience I judge quickly who the flaky people are and normally use them as a back up plan and never put upon them any importance.

I'm in a band right now and luckily the flakiness in the band isn't so much of an issue right now. But it is something that could fuck everything up if it did become an issue.

I agree about judging the flaky ones and I think that's what is really bothering me about this deal. The one person in particular I thought was a really dependable person so it really shocked me when he just bailed with no explanation. He actually didn't even respond to my text. Oh well I guess sometimes you just don't know what the other person's perspective is and what they might have going on in their lives.