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RE: Things You Regret
May 13, 2014 at 8:24 pm
(May 13, 2014 at 8:22 pm)Marsellus Wallace Wrote: (May 13, 2014 at 8:05 pm)Beccs Wrote: I was 13. Now some might say I was too young and didn't know any better and therefore should not regret it, but my mother was a devout Catholic, with all the baggage that carries - especially for a girl.
LOL, I was 7 years old(talk about too young 
) . But i'm saying 10 years wasted, because I only had to do the religious stuff seriously around the age of 10 and now i'm 21.
The younger you are the deeper it gets in your system and the harder it is to get it out .
I definitely agree there. That's why the religious target the young so much.
Playing Cluedo with my mum while I was at Uni:
"You did WHAT? With WHO? WHERE???"
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RE: Things You Regret
May 14, 2014 at 8:25 pm
There are decisions I wish I had made differently, but regrets? Not really. Every bad decision, leads to another place that leads you to where you are now. Sometimes, bad decisions shape us, and grow us up. It's good to think before acting, but making bad decisions is part of life. I don't necessarily regret them.
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RE: Things You Regret
May 14, 2014 at 8:31 pm
Nothing sucks out in my mind as something I regret or something I would like to change. That's a good thing, right?
Maybe I regret being shy during my early school years?
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RE: Things You Regret
May 16, 2014 at 10:27 am
(May 13, 2014 at 1:05 pm)Clueless Morgan Wrote: (May 13, 2014 at 12:17 pm)RaisdCath Wrote: In my very humble and naïve opinion, you sure as heck don't need therapy!!
That's one bonus of being reasonably self-aware and have a decent idea of where my problems stem from.
Quote:You seem to be most worried about a) what others will think
Yes. The teasing I endured in my childhood happened 1) in the formative years when I was learning right from wrong behavior and that I really didn't enjoy being teased or embarrassed, and 2) lasted long into my teens making for damn sure I knew the potential consequences if I ever had a boyfriend. As a result, I either never said yes when I was asked out, or kept my activities secret for fear of what would come of it if anyone in my family found out.
Like I said, it's not something I should worry about anymore, but I do. Kind of like people who have given up religion but still have that nagging anxiety about hell. It's not rational but it's still there.
Quote:and b) romance.
Puke.
The "puke" comment regarding "romance" is easily understood, so for now (however long "now" might last).....leave it out.
Now....concentrate on activities where you're not known .... or known only a little....and enjoy them. Nature walks, book clubs, a small gym, bird watching (I know it sounds silly, but it is very relaxing), and such stuff.
Gets you around people without any stress of "expectations"!!
People don't go to heaven when they die; they're taken to a special room and burned.
