Conflict resolution..

[lifesagift]

Clearly the whole world is filled with debate and argument... but have any of you studied, or can shed a light on conflict resolution. For example, the sort of training marriage guidance counsellors might undertake?

My reason of thinking is say let's, take the scenario, you're a bloke, in a bar, and there's a woman walking towards you carrying a tray of drinks, and you move sharply to your right to get out of her way, as any gentleman would do. But in doing so, you knock the arm of another bloke and spill his beers down his trousers (or pants). Now at this point you say sorry, but potentially this guy is cross and shouts and calls you names and you then focus on the abusive response and get cross back about being called bad things...

Now, WW3 could start right there... and clearly that's how arguments develop.. we don't focus on the subject matter, but just react...

Are there techniques or methodologies which can help two warring parties come to agreement?

[Aoi Magi]

Clearly the whole world is filled with debate and argument... but have any of you studied, or can shed a light on conflict resolution. For example, the sort of training marriage guidance counsellors might undertake?

My reason of thinking is say let's, take the scenario, you're a bloke, in a bar, and there's a woman walking towards you carrying a tray of drinks, and you move sharply to your right to get out of her way, as any gentleman would do. But in doing so, you knock the arm of another bloke and spill his beers down his trousers (or pants). Now at this point you say sorry, but potentially this guy is cross and shouts and calls you names and you then focus on the abusive response and get cross back about being called bad things...

Now, WW3 could start right there... and clearly that's how arguments develop.. we don't focus on the subject matter, but just react...

Are there techniques or methodologies which can help two warring parties come to agreement?

Options:

[lifesagift]

Clearly the whole world is filled with debate and argument... but have any of you studied, or can shed a light on conflict resolution. For example, the sort of training marriage guidance counsellors might undertake?

My reason of thinking is say let's, take the scenario, you're a bloke, in a bar, and there's a woman walking towards you carrying a tray of drinks, and you move sharply to your right to get out of her way, as any gentleman would do. But in doing so, you knock the arm of another bloke and spill his beers down his trousers (or pants). Now at this point you say sorry, but potentially this guy is cross and shouts and calls you names and you then focus on the abusive response and get cross back about being called bad things...

Now, WW3 could start right there... and clearly that's how arguments develop.. we don't focus on the subject matter, but just react...

Are there techniques or methodologies which can help two warring parties come to agreement?

Options:

Lol... not very helpful, really

[Aoi Magi]

try anger management then?

[lifesagift]

try anger management then?

But I'm not angry!!

[Aoi Magi]

If someone just reacts to words without judging the situation, then yes, that person is angry. And the best way to deal with this is to learn to stay calm, which can be done through anger management practices and/or meditation.

If you are coming in as the mediator, then too you need to know anger management practices so that you can help both parties to calm down.

[lifesagift]

But is there a formula or technique that can be applied to debates about religion etc?

[Aoi Magi]

But is there a formula or technique that can be applied to debates about religion etc?

Yes, visualize yourself debating with a toddler.

Talk and explain things just as you'd to a toddler, and you should be fine.

[lifesagift]

But is there a formula or technique that can be applied to debates about religion etc?

Yes, visualize yourself debating with a toddler.

Talk and explain things just as you'd to a toddler, and you should be fine.

Cool..
sorted then..