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The Newly Departed thread: announcements (departures)
RE: The Newly Departed thread: announcements (departures)
My son is on the spectrum and hasn't once (that I know of) gone off the rails. If impulse control is the issue, that's one thing, and it can be improved. But being a cunt 'just because' is not acceptable.
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RE: The Newly Departed thread: announcements (departures)
(May 8, 2018 at 2:01 pm)FatAndFaithless Wrote: I thought (as far as memory serves) there were several people on this forum who are on the spectrum, who don't appear to have problems interacting reasonably and politely with people, for the most part.

I understand that, but autism is a spectrum. What may be a challenge to one person, may not be for another. 

Anyway, all I'm suggesting here is taking a more gentle/patient approach when talking to him about his inappropriate posts. That's all.
"Of course, everyone will claim they respect someone who tries to speak the truth, but in reality, this is a rare quality. Most respect those who speak truths they agree with, and their respect for the speaking only extends as far as their realm of personal agreement. It is less common, almost to the point of becoming a saintly virtue, that someone truly respects and loves the truth seeker, even when their conclusions differ wildly." 

-walsh
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RE: The Newly Departed thread: announcements (departures)
(May 8, 2018 at 4:12 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote:
(May 8, 2018 at 2:01 pm)FatAndFaithless Wrote: I thought (as far as memory serves) there were several people on this forum who are on the spectrum, who don't appear to have problems interacting reasonably and politely with people, for the most part.

I understand that, but autism is a spectrum. What may be a challenge to one person, may not be for another. 

Anyway, all I'm suggesting here is taking a more gentle/patient approach when talking to him about his inappropriate posts. That's all.

Actually whether you have autism or not, we all have things we are dealing with, bad days, personal struggles.   What you are saying is never bad advice.
It is said that an argument is what convinces reasonable men and a proof is what it takes to convince even an unreasonable man.  - Alexander Vilenkin
If I am shown my error, I will be the first to throw my books into the fire.  - Martin Luther
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RE: The Newly Departed thread: announcements (departures)
The only thing we know about Hammy's diagnosis is what he told us. I don't know what to believe.
If you get to thinking you’re a person of some influence, try ordering somebody else’s dog around.
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RE: The Newly Departed thread: announcements (departures)
Fireball, he is definitely autistic.
"Of course, everyone will claim they respect someone who tries to speak the truth, but in reality, this is a rare quality. Most respect those who speak truths they agree with, and their respect for the speaking only extends as far as their realm of personal agreement. It is less common, almost to the point of becoming a saintly virtue, that someone truly respects and loves the truth seeker, even when their conclusions differ wildly." 

-walsh
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RE: The Newly Departed thread: announcements (departures)
Does it really matter? Hammy is a good guy. He’s not perfect but none of us are. If his posts really bother you, put him on ignore.
(August 21, 2017 at 11:31 pm)KevinM1 Wrote: "I'm not a troll"
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Hammy Wrote:and we also have a sheep on our bed underneath as well
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RE: The Newly Departed thread: announcements (departures)
I guess I'm just not as invested with certain discussions to become upset about them.
"Never trust a fox. Looks like a dog, behaves like a cat."
~ Erin Hunter
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Clarification about autism spectrum, if I may. It's a neurodevelopmental disorder, not a personality disorder or whatever. This means, just like we have varying personalities on the neurotypical spectrum, we have varying personality types on the autism spectrum. The spectrum itself isn't based on differences in personality, but on how high functioning the person on the spectrum is. This means you could have someone with autism who is utterly introverted and another who is full on extraverted. To tell if someone is on the autism, you have to observe that person in real life and see how they interact with people, observe their body language, note special interests, if they have sensory issues, etc. People with autism, just like neurotypical people, can and do often suffer from other problems (comorbid disorders they call them). Just throwing this out there because some people still don't understand what it really is.
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RE: The Newly Departed thread: announcements (departures)
Agree. And as I mentioned before being anywhere on the spectrum and being willingly nasty are not mutually exclusive and one shouldn't connect the dots...

If he wants to be treated as a normal person (which I do), then he (as Shell suggested) should own his actions...

Personally, I think it's just a case of garden variety fragile ego syndrome. no biggie.
No God, No fear.
Know God, Know fear.
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RE: The Newly Departed thread: announcements (departures)
Hammy has a really good heart. Take a time out, Hammy...but hope you come back Heart
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