Mediocre

[Xyster]

So what you are saying is that you are okay with being mediocre. I get what you're saying about passing on values but values are always forgotten and scrapped for something better, like money. The society we live could care less about values and more about themselves. The media glamourizes failure and shadows success. Someone has to change that. Someone has to say enough. Will you be that person? Or will you hide behind your values? In order to clean a mess up you've got to get a little dirty yourself.

Well im not an ANTI-theist for nothing....

[Hopppppppp]

Look. It was not my intention to start an argument. We are people and we feel the need do so, it's perfectly human. All I wanted know is if you feel like your life is mediocre? Do not argue with me if at the end of the day you cannot say that you have accomplished all that you have wanted to in this life.

[Violet]

I'm not sure any of you are famous or wealthy. In the same I can't understand how people can live with being mediocre. Knowing that no one cares whether you live or die. The saddest part is knowing that you won't be remembered. I feel that if you know that you serve no basic purpose on this Earth than to waste space than maybe your life isn't worth living. Sorry if I offend anyone but my greatest fear is being amediocre person, someone without value.

Anyone can think whatever, and it doesn't change the facts. I can't stand being a mediocre (I'm taking this to mean "average", or "beneath average") person in most circumstances. I can't turn in "average" or "acceptable" work, because I am driven to being excellent.

I think my being mediocre at something I value myself in is bad... but it is not bad because society doesn't care... it's bad because I know I can do better and don't. If I am a mediocre metallurgist: I can happily live with that. If I am a mediocre restoration shaman (WoW), I feel bad, because I value my skill in healing.

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Look. It was not my intention to start an argument. We are people and we feel the need do so, it's perfectly human. All I wanted know is if you feel like your life is mediocre? Do not argue with me if at the end of the day you cannot say that you have accomplished all that you have wanted to in this life.

I do not feel like my life is mediocre. I feel I contribute, my contributions are appreciated, and people benefit from my contributions.

However, that doesn't stop me from hating certain aspects of my life, nor does my hating some things stop me from loving others. At the basis: we just live. However... I refuse to live broken... my tickets to a better life lost forever, and my formerly 'good' life a drowned carcass. I can't just live like 'everyone else'... that fundamentally goes against who I consider myself to be.

[Shell B]

All I wanted know is if you feel like your life is mediocre?

No, I don't feel like my life is mediocre. It's mine, so it must be fucking awesome.

Do not argue with me if at the end of the day you cannot say that you have accomplished all that you have wanted to in this life.

Don't tell me when I can and can't argue with you. Pfft. . . I'll argue with anybody who expects me to have accomplished all that I want to in this life by the end of the day. Lofty standards, methinks.

[Minimalist]

Fame is over-rated.


So is virginity.

[Oldandeasilyconfused]

I'm not sure any of you are famous or wealthy. In the same I can't understand how people can live with being mediocre. Knowing that no one cares whether you live or die. The saddest part is knowing that you won't be remembered. I feel that if you know that you serve no basic purpose on this Earth than to waste space than maybe your life isn't worth living. Sorry if I offend anyone but my greatest fear is being a mediocre person, someone without value.

And you are?


I have never understood the culture of celebrity. Generally famous people have one area of expertise :EG science, sports,pop music,acting, serial murder.OR for 15minutes, reality TV. OR worse; vacuous skanky molls like Paris Hilton, famous for being famous. People remembered for more than a generation are rare.

After the last person who knew me dies it will be as if I've never existed. I could not care less. My sense of self worth comes from within and to a lesser extent,from the opinions of people about whom I care deeply.That is a very short list.

How to be extra ordinary:

Stop whinging and wasting your time on internet forums.

Find ONE THING about which you are passionate. Focus on that one thing, work your arse off and learn to promote yourself.

With a LOT of hard work you may go from being a boring and shallow human being to being a rich and famous boring and shallow human being.Unlikely you will be any happier or like yourself any more.

I saw this on a tomb in Pompeii:

I was not. I was. I am Not. I don't care

[Zen Badger]

No matter how well remembered you might be( i.e Alex the great or one A.Hitler)

You will still be dead.

So what does it matter?

As long as the people around you benefit from the things you do that is all that can matter.

Posterity is a hollow achievement.

[KichigaiNeko]

Mediocrity...hmmm majoring in minors??

I would take heed of the above collective experiences if I were you, and stop worrying about stuff that is beyond your control. At the end of the day YOU are the only one you have to account too.

Did you give it your BEST shot??
Did you allow something "bad" to happen when you could have changed the outcome? If so ...WHY?
Did you pass on the BEST understanding to living a good life to your children? (as you understood it at the time)
Did you you teach your children to THINK for themselves??
Can you answer any of these HONESTLY and sleep well @ night??

The fact that you are questioning yourself is a good thing. I feel that you are using society's yard stick to measure yourself with and this is not helpful. Society and societal mores ARE shallow and fickle. The Best thing you can give the world is YOU. No you won't be remembered but this is not a problem. People forget that Einstein was a terrible child with an Autistic Continuum condition.

[Morilyn]

Mediocrity is not necessarily something to be ashamed of, I think. There will always be a group of people out there that will be 'average' at one thing or another. But that is about certain subjects, if you mean someone's life as a whole is mediocre, then that I can see someone feeling bad about.

However, I think there are very few people out there who are truly mediocre in just about every aspect. I am fairly certain though, that they are mediocre because they don't care to be better than that.

If you try to succeed at something, and mean it, you will get placed above average. It isn't hard to beat the average Joe. There will be a lot of people still better than you, but that doesn't equate to mediocre, at least not in my interpretation.



As a side note, some of the posters here are worried about their value and/or remembrance to others. Personally, I avoid anything high profile because I don't like my business being under public scrutiny. If you think high profile is the "correct" way to live... err, have fun. My sense of worth is from my own judgment upon my actions and decisions, I don't usually need or want someone else to tell me what they think I should have done. I will analyze it myself, to see if I am lacking or otherwise.

(Half the reason it took me so long to join this forum even though Sae has been a member for some time now, is that I dislike lots of public attention. Today I swallowed that fear, because the community here is to my tastes. Also, the interwebz is anonymous anyway. )

[Edwardo Piet]

I agree that being mediocre is a subjective thing... as is being successful. But being satisfied with who I am is just way too boring for me LOL.

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