Anyone identify with being feminine? How about masculine?

[Whateverist]

Has anyone else ever made it a habit to look at people?  I mean, really watch them.  All of them, all of the time?  It's strange. You notice that people mostly don't look at other people, and hate to be caught looking.   They even hate to be caught looking to see whether or not you're looking.

I tend to look at women more when I've had a drink, it always improves their appearance.

Interesting.  I wonder if you look more because they appear so much improved or because your acquired filtering is down? Or maybe you just lose the good sense to mind the missus?  Does yours ever point out choice bits she suspects you'd like?  Mine does rarely but she knows me well.  

I definitely don't openly stare slack jawed, and am always embarrassed when I realize where my eyes have gone when my mind is elsewhere - especially if I get caught.

Funny, but it sounds as if our femininity and masculinity lead us all to be checking out the ladies.  They're doing it comparatively -perhaps with the hope of picking up tips for improving their 'lure'.  We seem to be responding to a natural sort of attraction.

[Expired]

I tend to look at women more when I've had a drink, it always improves their appearance.

Interesting.  I wonder if you look more because they appear so much improved or because your acquired filtering is down? Or maybe you just lose the good sense to mind the missus?  Does yours ever point out choice bits she suspects you'd like?  Mine does rarely but she knows me well.  

I definitely don't openly stare slack jawed, and am always embarrassed when I realize where my eyes have gone when my mind is elsewhere - especially if I get caught.

Funny, but it sounds as if our femininity and masculinity lead us all to be checking out the ladies.  They're doing it comparatively -perhaps with the hope of picking up tips for improving their 'lure'.  We seem to be responding to a natural sort of attraction.

If we are honest, we all check each other out. I have been in trouble with the Mrs a few times when I've been caught but I know she checks out fellas as well, she knows what I find attractive in a woman and I know what see likes to see in a man, she will be quite open about other womens appearances also.

My filters almost totally disappear when I've had a few, it makes me more confident I suppose, I reckon a lot of people know what I mean when I talk about the effects of the beer goggles though.

[Edwardo Piet]

Constant macho bullshit from guys I find irritating.

Me too initially but on second reflection I tend to smirk like this:

[emoji57]

It's amusingly and ironically a sign of rather non-masculine insecurity.

[Edwardo Piet]

I have always had more female friends than male friends. 

Same. Always.

Guys so often react weirdly to me when I go on my rambles.

Only male friend I talk to relatively regularly is pocaracas.

[vorlon13]

Here's another way of looking at how my mind works:

Men seeking release of their sexual tension with women I tend to consider effeminate (think about it) and men seeking release with men as inherently more masculine.

Now, as to my preference for 'hetero' men, I'm imbuing into their existence, by virtue of my maleness, masculinity if they have sex with me. Hot sweaty homo mansex. It's good for what ails 'em. Butches them up, gets their minds off of that effete girly stuff and focused on jock odor, hairiness, muscliness, studly manliness, spitting and scratching.


It's like a mission from God. I'm fixing them, I'm doing them a favor by taking one for the team and putting them on the team.



Gee looks like I view myself as not only masculine, but as a gateway to masculinity for other mens.

[vorlon13]

Brett Favre just HAS to hook up with me !!!!!!!!!!!

[Whateverist]

Here's another way of looking at how my mind works:

Men seeking release of their sexual tension with women I tend to consider effeminate (think about it)  and men seeking release with men as inherently more masculine.

Now, as to my preference for 'hetero' men, I'm imbuing into their existence, by virtue of my maleness, masculinity if they have sex with me. Hot sweaty homo mansex. It's good for what ails 'em.  Butches them up, gets their minds off of that effete girly stuff and focused on jock odor, hairiness, muscliness, studly manliness, spitting and scratching.


It's like a mission from God.  I'm fixing them, I'm doing them a favor by taking one for the team and putting them on the team.



Gee looks like I view myself as not only masculine, but as a gateway to masculinity for other mens.

Lol.  But I don't think it is their best foot you want them putting forward.  I'm starting to think you might be a homo.

[Edwardo Piet]

Men seeking release of their sexual tension with women I tend to consider effeminate (think about it)  and men seeking release with men as inherently more masculine.

I've thought about it. A lot. And I definitely disagree very strongly, for me personally. But this is all just all a difference in personal perspective

There's nothing more masculine, to me, than a masculine guy wanting to dom a subby femme woman, opposites attract and all that jazz. Although really I don't think sex or gender identity is what it's about. The masculine doms the feminine... regardless of their biological sex or their gender identity being male or female, is how I see it. I think we can separate sexuality/sexual orientation, biological sex and gender-identity all from masculinity/femininity. Whether someone is born biologically male or female, and whether they're gay, straight, bisexual, pansexual or Japanese, in my experience dominance and masculinity tend to go hand in hand and submissiveness and femininity tend to go hand in hand. Although it's still just a tendency, certainly not necessarily the case.

But each to their own

[vorlon13]

viva la difference

[Edwardo Piet]

I'd say I identify as sexually masculine and non-sexually neutral. I think because most guys put on a show to act manly and to try not to cry or whine or act un-masculine (which ironically I think is insecure and non-masculine of them)... I think most of us have a distorted sense of what it means to be neutral. I'm more neither masculine nor feminine, in reality, I think... outside the bedroom.

I'm more of a robot-dude than a girly-man.