Anyone identify with being feminine? How about masculine?

[Astreja]

I'm biologically female, but androgynous both attraction-wise and identity-wise. The extremes of masculinity and femininity always seemed weird.

[robvalue]

I don't feel that I am either. I'm just me. I find people who are obviously trying really hard to be masculine especially irritating.

If I had to stereotype myself, I feel my personality is more akin to female than male. I also feel more comfortable in the company of a random female than a random male usually.

[vorlon13]

Do I feel feminine while submitting to another man ?

No.

I'm attracted to masculine men who (usually, LOL) do masculine things to me because they want to do them to another man, else they'd be with a woman. So I don't see any angle there where I'd entertain contrary feelings to what my nature is calling me to do.

Do I feel men who submit to me are feminine?

No, I'm not attracted to men who would feel that way while being submissive.



I think there are several parameters in play here; what's attractive, what about me is attractive, what I'm feeling while attracting attention, etc, and there is a scale from feminine to masculine on all of them. I think I'm pretty far out there on maxing out on masculine on all of them. My experience with people of all stripes informs me I'm probably quite a ways out on the bell shaped curve if you sum all the attracteds and attractives.

YMMV.

[paulpablo]

I've always thought of both feminine and masculine traits are just being what are tendencies of either sex.

Usually in terms of habits, body language, speech tone, likes and dislikes and so on.

I do identify with being mainly masculine but definitely admit that some of my habits or lack of habits could be considered feminine.

I love going to the gym, playing guitar, internet chat, watching violent sports.  In all of these interests I notice that I'm many times more likely to meet men who have a tendency to like these things aswell rather than women.  I also work in a job where everyone is either male or lesbian female.
I us a trimmer/shaver type thing on my hair so hair is no interest of mine, neither is singing or dancing.
If I'm on a date I'll do most the initial talking, the initial attempts at jokes, pay for everything. And in terms of sexual behavior I'm naturally domineering without a doubt.

On the other hand I don't follow team sports, it fucking baffles me, I don't drink beer because I don't want a beer belly.  I don't watch my weight but I do watch my stomach and I don't want to end up like some of the older men I know with a massive stomach, I'm 32 and I'm doing good so far but I need to watch my eating.  One of the lesbians in work laughed and told me I sound like a girl when I was telling her about trying to stay slim which made me laugh.  Some of the music I like could be considered feminine but not too much.

[The Grand Nudger]

I will talk about myself as a hetero man and others like me. This may very well describe only a a portion of the people described anyway. I dont know.

I've found that men, including me, tend to treat other men differently than women, for example. Very differently. 

You know what really throws em off?  When you -don't- treat them differently.  Look deep into his eyes when you speak. Smile, cock your head to the side.  Speak to him gently, half whispering.  Lightly brush his upper arm with your open palm when you want to get his attention.  

@The OP 

I guess I do identify with being masculine, though I couldn't pin it down.  Not sure if it's worth much, though, since my grandmothers twice the man I am whatever the metrics for masculinity happen to be.  I suppose it's only judged in relation to a perception of femininity, really.  Everytime I have to remind myself "you're being a bitch" (sorry ladies, my inner voice is a complete asshole) it stands as stark reminder that I know what masculinity -isn't- even if I don't know what it is, lol. Couldn;t really pin it down to any paricular act either. Since, in my opinion, when I sing, I sing like a fuckin man. When I braid hair, I do it like a dude does it. There's just this running notion that whatever it is I'm doing,and it could be a pirouette in a tutu, I'm somehow doing it "the masculine way".

[Whateverist]

Yeah, I'd say feeling/being feminine is integral to me.

As for what it's like? I dunno, lol. I like it though. It's hard to explain it. It's like, I like feeling pretty and feeling like I want someone to protect me and take care of me. Which is weird because at the same time, I kinda wear the pants in mine and my husband's relationship lol. Nonetheless, that's what it feels like to me to feel feminine. Though I'm sure it's different for each woman.

Thanks for chiming in.  You know, I have a hard time imagining what that (my bolded) would be like.  

Perhaps paying attention to who I'm attracted to is part of the masculine deal?  I notice women's bodies a lot.  I'm a notorious bottom watcher.  But also the way they move.  I mean, I don't go out with the intention of looking but I just can't help noticing, it's automatic.

It's hard to relate to checking if I'm being noticed or how I'm being received, I don't think of myself that way.  Of course when I was single it was different.  I'd try to wear things I thought would be noticed.  But I don't think I ever thought the way I looked would be what helped me hook up.  I always expected conversation would be the thing to make the connection, or maybe a dance.

[Jesster]

I wasn't allowed to be feminine growing up at all, but it's something I've always felt at my core. Once I didn't have to hide it so much, I instantly started feeling positive about my life for once. It's definitely important to me. I also started to notice other women in how they presented themselves once I had something to compare it to. So yes, that's normal as far as my experiences go. The other big difference between how I act and how I was raised to be is that how I take care of people and how I like others taking care of me is far different. I definitely appreciate my boyfriend's masculinity as a big shoulder to lean on, but I care for him by being there as a comforting emotional support.

I wouldn't say men and women are all too different in most things. Masculinity and femininity, at least in my experience, are mostly about how you approach life. Beyond that, everyone is also an individual. I at least appreciate the fact that I've experienced an inside look at both ways, even if one certainly never fit me well.

[Whateverist]

I'm biologically female, but androgynous both attraction-wise and identity-wise.  The extremes of masculinity and femininity always seemed weird.

That's interesting.  I wonder if you are nonetheless aware of the male gaze?  I mean, even if you're not hoping for it perhaps it is something one notices anyway?  My wife thinks men are more turned on by visual stimuli.  I wonder if you're that way too.

When it comes to wooing I wonder if you give thought to making yourself a 'lure' or if you rely on conversation and activity the way I do?  Of course I'm so far out of shape now gawd only knows what I'd do anymore.

[Whateverist]

@The OP 

I guess I do identify with being masculine, though I couldn't pin it down.  Not sure if it's worth much, though, since my grandmothers twice the man I am whatever the metrics for masculinity happen to be.  I suppose it's only judged in relation to a perception of femininity, really.  Everytime I have to remind myself "you're being a bitch" (sorry ladies, my inner voice is a complete asshole) it stands as stark reminder that I know what masculinity -isn't- even if I don't know what it is, lol.  Couldn;t really pin it down to any paricular act either.  Since, in my opinion, when I sing, I sing like a fuckin man.  When I braid hair, I do it like a dude does it.  There's just this running notion that whatever it is I'm doing,and it could be a pirouette in a tutu, I'm somehow doing it "the masculine way".

I make that assumption too even though I don't think an actor looking to pump up the masculinity would do it anything like me.  I'm conceited enough to assume that if what men do is masculine, then whatever I do is that - completely without any affectation.

[Edwardo Piet]

My body and sexuality is masculine but my personality style often comes across as feminine.

My balls identify as masculine.

As does my cock and niblets ("niblets" just being a more shanky way to say "nibbles" and "shanky" just being a more squirrely way to say "swaggy".).

As does my beardage.

My chitter-chatterboxing with my mouth and tippy-tappy-tap-tapping with my keyboard both create femininely upbeat wordage pretty darning often... however, my mouth-soundage and tapping-style is like a man, baby, like a man!