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On Loneliness
#1
On Loneliness
Due to many circumstances in my life, I have considered living alone for the rest of my life. I like being alone, and I am used to it. My parents divorced since I was 8 years old and I am the only son.

I am considering to rent an apartment and start living by myself, with the economical support of my parents. I am a university student. 

This made me remember some quots about Schopenhauer about living alone such as “A man can be himself only so long as he is alone; and if he does not love solitude, he will not love freedom; for it is only when he is alone that he is really free.” Many philosophers have mentioned the pleasure of loneliness. But is it true, that a man can find comfort completely by his own?

Recently I was reading a book of Robert Ingersoll, and he said that the pleasures of living alone are only found in books, but that reality is different. It shocked me. I did not consider that possibility. 

Now lets talk about biology. Our bodies are made to receive the touch of someone else. Hugging, kissing, love. All of that is necessary for the human development. Scientifically proven. Can we really achieve a good life without satisfying the needs of our body? If Schopenhauer knew about these physiological facts, would have he changed his mind?

A country like Sweden, in which half the people live alone and 1 out of 4 dies alone, is the 3rd country of Europe that consumes more anti-depressives.  A country like Japan in which people do not marry and avoid relationships with the opposite sex, has one of the highest suicide rates. I know this is not the only cause of suicide, but it definitely contributes. Japan has a whole industry to satisfy the sexual and emotional needs of people living alone, mainly men.

What do you think, then? Can we really live alone and be relatively happy? Can we overcome our physical needs, or are we chained to them? Can ideals of independance and the needs of the flesh coexist?
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#2
RE: On Loneliness
It depends if you mean living alone and being alone or living alone and inviting friends and girlfriends to stay over. If it's the latter then there's no issue but if it's the former then I think I'd get depressed.

i like balance. If I have a few days very close and intimate with someone I like to spend a few hours alone after it.

I always like some kind of communication no matter what, physical intimate contact being the best, friendly convo in work second, and there's been times in my life where I've relied a lot on internet socialising but I couldn't go back to doing that again I don't think.


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#3
RE: On Loneliness
(February 22, 2017 at 2:05 pm)paulpablo Wrote: It depends if you mean living alone and being alone or living alone and inviting friends and girlfriends to stay over. If it's the latter then there's no issue but if it's the former then I think I'd get depressed.

i like balance. If I have a few days very close and intimate with someone I like to spend a few hours alone after it.

I always like some kind of communication no matter what, physical intimate contact being the best, friendly convo in work second, and there's been times in my life where I've relied a lot on internet socialising but I couldn't go back to doing that again I don't think.

I always dreamed of having a wife and kids, but at this point I am not sure. Which is why I know the possibility of a partner is low.
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RE: On Loneliness
(February 22, 2017 at 2:05 pm)paulpablo Wrote: It depends if you mean living alone and being alone or living alone and inviting friends and girlfriends to stay over. If it's the latter then there's no issue but if it's the former then I think I'd get depressed.

I am that latter. I never visit nor am I ever visited.
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#5
RE: On Loneliness
Have you considered having a private conversation with a senior who has already lived alone most of their lives?
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#6
RE: On Loneliness
(February 22, 2017 at 3:07 pm)Neo-Scholastic Wrote: Have you considered having a private conversation with a senior who has already lived alone most of their lives?

And where do I find them?
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#7
RE: On Loneliness
Personally I enjoy living alone (apart from the cats, of course).

Remember, though, that life is what you make of it. If you don't try going out and getting into a relationship, then that relationship won't happen.

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#8
RE: On Loneliness
I can't stand being single, personally. I need someone there to take care of me in some ways, and whom I can take care of in other ways. Living alone and having a boyfriend wouldn't be enough, either. I like being home and having Mr CL home with me, and doing things together.

I guess some people claim to like being single, though personally I can't understand that unless you're single and give your life to a greater cause.
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RE: On Loneliness
(February 22, 2017 at 3:04 pm)Alasdair Ham Wrote:
(February 22, 2017 at 2:05 pm)paulpablo Wrote: It depends if you mean living alone and being alone or living alone and inviting friends and girlfriends to stay over. If it's the latter then there's no issue but if it's the former then I think I'd get depressed.

I am that latter. I never visit nor am I ever visited.

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#10
RE: On Loneliness
I may be wrong and please feel free to correct me, but this is coming across to me as self pity. (self indulgent dwelling on your own perceived misfortunes)

If I'm correct and you continue down this mental path you may be doomed. It rarely attracts positive attention from others.
Being told you're delusional does not necessarily mean you're mental. 
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