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A correction regarding my views on survivors guilt
September 27, 2017 at 8:44 pm
I've remarked here in posts a few times the 'cure' for survivors guilt is time, and lots of it. I've probably mentioned 'toughing it out' too.
That is categorically wrong and I regret posting my uninformed opinions on the matter.
I'd urge anyone with such feelings to seek out help ASAP.
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RE: A correction regarding my views on survivors guilt
September 27, 2017 at 9:50 pm
I'd imagine that the cure is different for each survivor ... but seeking help can't hurt.
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RE: A correction regarding my views on survivors guilt
September 28, 2017 at 5:03 am
Vorls, are you OK?
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RE: A correction regarding my views on survivors guilt
September 28, 2017 at 5:57 am
Glad you are still here!
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RE: A correction regarding my views on survivors guilt
September 28, 2017 at 7:13 am
I can tell you having gone through all my mom's health problems, and watch her die, survivor's guilt isn't just watching a violent death like war or a car accident. Even before she was diagnosed with what lead to her last surgery, with her mobility problems in her old age, you live in fear of something happening and getting a phone call. You second guess yourself constantly as to when to step in and when to let her make her own decisions. You blame yourself even when it isn't your fault, even when you know they made their own decisions.
You never get over it, you only cope, especially with death. It doesn't matter how a loved one dies. There is no such thing as closure or "get over it'. There is only management and coping. The best you can do after losing a loved one, no matter how they die, the best you can do is to seek support and the management can become more manageable over time, but loss of a loved one never goes away.
