I'm in Love with a Theist

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Heya again Wolf

In general, I think it's a bad idea. But then every case is different so I'd never just outright say "don't do it". It sounds like she is towards the more mellow end of things. If she's not making it a problem in your relationship, then things could be fine. For example, my wife believes in ghosts and a few other paranormal things but she doesn't make it an issue so it doesn't matter.

For me, the biggest thing is having children. Up until that point, you're just considering yourself and whether you're happy with the relationship. Having kids is the biggest decision you could ever make, and you can't take it back.

You have to evaluate the possibility that she could want to indoctrinate your kids, even if it seems like she wouldn't want to now. And to a lesser extent her family is an issue, but as long as your girlfriend was against indoctrination, they would fail at any attempt. I've heard this story before, and after having kids the theist suddenly can't deal with them growing up non religious. It then becomes a problem not only for the children but for your relationship.

So my best advice it to be completely honest. Let her know what your beliefs and lack of beliefs are, in detail. Let her know what you would expect when raising children (if/when it gets to that stage). Then you'll need to decide whether you feel comfortable enough that she will stick to it. Maybe she will, which is again why I don't simply say "don't do it", but be very cautious.

Best of luck with whatever you try to do