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RE: My mom is dying, going to need an ear.
November 27, 2017 at 11:10 pm
I can think of a few people whose deaths I'd never get over.
I admire your ability to cope so well, Brian, and at the same time I'd never expect the pain to go away. And you're coping much better than I would with loss. I don't cope with loss well at all. Although you were clearly a lot closer to your mother than I am to mine. There are several other people I'd be permanently heartbroken to lose though. Respect to you man.
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RE: My mom is dying, going to need an ear.
November 28, 2017 at 3:33 pm
(November 27, 2017 at 11:10 pm)Hammy Wrote: I can think of a few people whose deaths I'd never get over.
I admire your ability to cope so well, Brian, and at the same time I'd never expect the pain to go away. And you're coping much better than I would with loss. I don't cope with loss well at all. Although you were clearly a lot closer to your mother than I am to mine. There are several other people I'd be permanently heartbroken to lose though. Respect to you man. I'm not sure that is true. When my mother passed she was sorely missed, but a decade before it was my privilege to sit in ICU and agree that there was nothing unspoken between us. Happily, she survived those heart attacks and went on to monster life for her remaining ten years. We went skiing, which was unexpected. It was the best of times. We all knew that the clock was ticking, but we also all knew that the clock was counting down to zero.
So, we made the best of the time that was left to us. And were glad of it. And by "we" I include my siblings.
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RE: My mom is dying, going to need an ear.
November 28, 2017 at 3:35 pm
Im pretry sure if my husband died I'd want to kill myself. And I probably would if it weren't for my faith.
"Of course, everyone will claim they respect someone who tries to speak the truth, but in reality, this is a rare quality. Most respect those who speak truths they agree with, and their respect for the speaking only extends as far as their realm of personal agreement. It is less common, almost to the point of becoming a saintly virtue, that someone truly respects and loves the truth seeker, even when their conclusions differ wildly."
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RE: My mom is dying, going to need an ear.
November 28, 2017 at 4:47 pm
(November 28, 2017 at 3:35 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote: Im pretry sure if my husband died I'd want to kill myself. And I probably would if it weren't for my faith.
I believe that is known as codependency, and it is deeply unhealthy.
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RE: My mom is dying, going to need an ear.
November 29, 2017 at 12:25 am
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(November 28, 2017 at 4:47 pm)Abaddon_ire Wrote: (November 28, 2017 at 3:35 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote: Im pretry sure if my husband died I'd want to kill myself. And I probably would if it weren't for my faith.
I believe that is known as codependency, and it is deeply unhealthy.
If you say so.
"Of course, everyone will claim they respect someone who tries to speak the truth, but in reality, this is a rare quality. Most respect those who speak truths they agree with, and their respect for the speaking only extends as far as their realm of personal agreement. It is less common, almost to the point of becoming a saintly virtue, that someone truly respects and loves the truth seeker, even when their conclusions differ wildly."
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RE: My mom is dying, going to need an ear.
November 29, 2017 at 12:37 am
(November 28, 2017 at 4:47 pm)Abaddon_ire Wrote: (November 28, 2017 at 3:35 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote: Im pretry sure if my husband died I'd want to kill myself. And I probably would if it weren't for my faith.
I believe that is known as codependency, and it is deeply unhealthy.
Naw, don't jump to conclusions like that.
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RE: My mom is dying, going to need an ear.
November 29, 2017 at 12:42 am
(November 29, 2017 at 12:37 am)Tres Leches Wrote: (November 28, 2017 at 4:47 pm)Abaddon_ire Wrote: I believe that is known as codependency, and it is deeply unhealthy.
Naw, don't jump to conclusions like that.
Don't worry, I don't pay any attention to what some stranger on the internet says about me/my marriage. I know I have a very healthy marriage.
"Of course, everyone will claim they respect someone who tries to speak the truth, but in reality, this is a rare quality. Most respect those who speak truths they agree with, and their respect for the speaking only extends as far as their realm of personal agreement. It is less common, almost to the point of becoming a saintly virtue, that someone truly respects and loves the truth seeker, even when their conclusions differ wildly."
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RE: My mom is dying, going to need an ear.
November 29, 2017 at 12:53 am
(November 29, 2017 at 12:42 am)Catholic_Lady Wrote: (November 29, 2017 at 12:37 am)Tres Leches Wrote: Naw, don't jump to conclusions like that.
Don't worry, I don't pay any attention to what some stranger on the internet says about me/my marriage. I know I have a very healthy marriage.
Had one of those, glad to be out of it.
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RE: My mom is dying, going to need an ear.
November 29, 2017 at 12:58 am
(November 29, 2017 at 12:53 am)Abaddon_ire Wrote: (November 29, 2017 at 12:42 am)Catholic_Lady Wrote: Don't worry, I don't pay any attention to what some stranger on the internet says about me/my marriage. I know I have a very healthy marriage.
Had one of those, glad to be out of it.
Ok
"Of course, everyone will claim they respect someone who tries to speak the truth, but in reality, this is a rare quality. Most respect those who speak truths they agree with, and their respect for the speaking only extends as far as their realm of personal agreement. It is less common, almost to the point of becoming a saintly virtue, that someone truly respects and loves the truth seeker, even when their conclusions differ wildly."
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RE: My mom is dying, going to need an ear.
December 6, 2017 at 2:54 pm
This is going to be bittersweet again. I am finally going to visit my friend Bob in Australia, he is getting up there so it probably will be the only time I meet him face to face. My mom loved him because she wanted me to be happy and Bob makes me happy, and they did get to see each other on Skype, but I never got him to come over here so we could all be together. My mom would be proud.
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