It's all about control, really...at least for me - pain doesn't do much to me unless the endorphins are already zipping along and then it's like throwing a little chili pepper in chocolate.

There's relaxation and pleasure to be found in surrendering complete control to someone and being able to trust that they'll make it good for you both. It's such a weird dynamic - even as the helpless one you have a certain amount of power over the person who's supposedly in command.

So TSQ are you saying you are a power bottom?

Oh Rhiz. I completely failed at the sardonic eye roll I was supposed to make there. hahahaha.

Absolutely not - that implies I'm actually doing work. As a Jewish American Princess, I avoid effort like the plague.

(November 19, 2010 at 1:14 pm)thesummerqueen Wrote: It's all about control, really...at least for me - pain doesn't do much to me unless the endorphins are already zipping along and then it's like throwing a little chili pepper in chocolate.

There's relaxation and pleasure to be found in surrendering complete control to someone and being able to trust that they'll make it good for you both. It's such a weird dynamic - even as the helpless one you have a certain amount of power over the person who's supposedly in command.

I'd be afraid that the woman would tie me up and then get distracted by something else.

Theres an episode in the old bbc serial the new statesman where alan b'stard ties a girl to a bed and then goes shopping.

This would be my fear.

(November 19, 2010 at 1:58 pm)downbeatplumb Wrote: I'd be afraid that the woman would tie me up and then get distracted by something else.

Theres an episode in the old bbc serial the new statesman where alan b'stard ties a girl to a bed and then goes shopping.

This would be my fear.

That's where the trust factor comes in. I don't let just anyone tie me up. Not "just anyone" deserves it.

Or knows how to do it right; half the fun is the struggle. Men (and Angelina Jolie, I still hope for you every day): please remember your boyscout knot tying lessons. Otherwise I'll consider you an ineffective captor. No respect = no surrender.

Thanks for the clue as to your age in the shoutbox, by the way - now I know why you had to have a lie down after my "Jeep girls like it topless and dirty" comment.

(November 19, 2010 at 2:05 pm)thesummerqueen Wrote:

(November 19, 2010 at 1:58 pm)downbeatplumb Wrote: I'd be afraid that the woman would tie me up and then get distracted by something else.

Theres an episode in the old bbc serial the new statesman where alan b'stard ties a girl to a bed and then goes shopping.

This would be my fear.

That's where the trust factor comes in. I don't let just anyone tie me up. Not "just anyone" deserves it.

Or knows how to do it right; half the fun is the struggle. Men (and Angelina Jolie, I still hope for you every day): please remember your boyscout knot tying lessons. Otherwise I'll consider you an ineffective captor. No respect = no surrender.

Thanks for the clue as to your age in the shoutbox, by the way - now I know why you had to have a lie down after my "Jeep girls like it topless and dirty" comment.

Yes I is an old man.

But I'm still a week younger than kyle minogue.

(November 19, 2010 at 2:05 pm)thesummerqueen Wrote: (and Angelina Jolie, I still hope for you every day

If it ever happens and you need a referee, I'd be happy to dive into the scrum

(November 20, 2010 at 2:56 am)Zen Badger Wrote: If it ever happens and you need a referee, I'd be happy to dive into the scrum

I call camera man!

"What's that Mr. Referee? More close-ups? Yes SIR!"

(November 20, 2010 at 2:56 am)Zen Badger Wrote:

(November 19, 2010 at 2:05 pm)thesummerqueen Wrote: (and Angelina Jolie, I still hope for you every day

If it ever happens and you need a referee, I'd be happy to dive into the scrum

I think shes just trying to give an old man a heart attack.

Personaly I find angelina a bit scrawny with too many tatoos.

(November 19, 2010 at 10:52 am)thesummerqueen Wrote: "Safe word"

Avocado!