(September 27, 2015 at 8:45 am)houseofcantor Wrote: I don't have any gay friends. 

I've got plenty. But none of them ever hit on me.

Only if the lesbian has taste and discernment.

(September 27, 2015 at 9:12 am)emjay Wrote: Er... guys, you're necroposting - reviving a long dead thread (and one which I hoped was dead  ) . And houseofcantor, you've got one here 

Thanks. I have lots online, but it didn't seem within the purview of the OP. 

(September 27, 2015 at 10:13 am)houseofcantor Wrote:

(September 27, 2015 at 9:12 am)emjay Wrote: Er... guys, you're necroposting - reviving a long dead thread (and one which I hoped was dead  ) . And houseofcantor, you've got one here 

Thanks. I have lots online, but it didn't seem within the purview of the OP. 

It was meant as either really - online or real life 

(September 27, 2015 at 9:55 am)abaris Wrote:

(September 27, 2015 at 8:45 am)houseofcantor Wrote: I don't have any gay friends. 

I've got plenty. But none of them ever hit on me.

Same here. I only wish they would; I might stand a chance again.

I suppose it would largely depend on which gay person fancied me. I mean, I DO have some standards,

Boru

I'd take the compliment, and say, "Thanks."

(July 6, 2015 at 3:36 pm)Rev. Rye Wrote: Of course, since we were both clothed when he did it (and he couldn't be bothered to pull my clothes away), I'm not sure if it technically counts as rape.

It does. Nonconsensual physical violation of a person is 'assault'... when that violation is sexual (and ^that^ violation IS sexual): it's 'sexual assault'.

It's a form of sexual intercourse that (in this case) is against another party's will, and without said party's consent. So yes. It is technically rape.

I'm sorry

(July 6, 2015 at 4:37 pm)emjay Wrote: I feel kind of awkward talking about this now after Rev Rye shared his experience. If people don't take no for an answer then it becomes harassment, or worse. <snip>. What I was really talking about was just flirting among friends, not strangers, and as I said, only if they're game.

I'd rather flirt with strangers... I'm no good at flirting with friends. I tend to make people uncomfortable. Myriad reasons, none the least of which is



But, I generally like hearing positive flirtatiousness from others... If I were aware that a guy is strictly homosexual, then it could hurt my self-esteem (as a woman) for him to tell me he fancies me... but the real trouble for me comes from other women, whom I desire with a truly lesbian passion. It's all well and good... until they say this:

"I really like you/I love you/You're really attractive/I want you/etc.... BUT ______________"

"Oh, I HATE cannonballs!" -Porthos (The Pirate)

(July 6, 2015 at 5:34 pm)emjay Wrote: If you say you fancy someone, that's quite a general statement which the other can then ask 'what is it they find attractive about me?'. In the absence of further information people may jump to their own conclusions. And if they're homophobic and have notions about what a gay person finds attractive, then they may actually conclude 'he fancies me because he thinks I'm gay, or effeminate' or whatever and therefore take it as an insult. The problem with all of that basically coming from the statement being general whereas perhaps it wouldn't be a problem with more specific compliments like 'you've got a great six-pack' because that sort of compliment can't be misunderstood. It's just a theory and I wonder if there's any truth in it, hence the thread.

I get that, but I think that comes down to insecurity and ignorance on the part of the offended straight person,
who is assuming that just because a gay person compliments them,
that that MUST mean "omg, do I look gay?"

All they need to do is say "thank you". That's all.