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Would you be flattered if a gay person said they fancied you?
July 6, 2015 at 3:21 pm
Welcome to my first poll  The question is this, if a gay person of either gender said they fancied you, would you be flattered, offended, or something else?
It's not as clear cut a question as it might appear. In my experience as a gay man, some homophobes actually seem quite annoyed if you say you don't fancy them - they all do their 'backs against the wall, lads' thing assuming all gay people fancy them but when you call them out on it and say you don't, not in the slightest in fact, they say 'oi!'. So in other words homophobia is not necessarily related to the question.
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RE: Would you be flattered if a gay person said they fancied you?
July 6, 2015 at 3:25 pm
I'm always flattered. Even if my buddies are just joking around or being nice, it always kinda puts a pep in my step. I remember my one friend, who was always hitting on me (jokingly or seriously, I don't know), caught sight of a dude he thought was really hot, I got a teensy bit jealous. Lol
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RE: Would you be flattered if a gay person said they fancied you?
July 6, 2015 at 3:28 pm
I'm a straight guy and I would be flattered but I would say "I'm flattered but Im not gay."
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RE: Would you be flattered if a gay person said they fancied you?
July 6, 2015 at 3:36 pm
I'm not. Admittedly, I spent my high school years in a parochial boy's only school, and a lot of the boys flirted with me. I did not enjoy it. I estimate that of my 200-strong graduating class, about half of them made a pass at me at some point. Sadly, when I declined them, quite a few did not simply stop, with a few going so far as groping me and even one incident where a student grabbed me from behind and dry-humped me against my will. Of course, since we were both clothed when he did it (and he couldn't be bothered to pull my clothes away), I'm not sure if it technically counts as rape.
Still, I'm well aware that most gay people will at least know not to keep at it when flirting with a straight person, and likely a lot of what I had to go through was closer to prison sexuality than regular gay people, but it still brings up bad times for me.
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RE: Would you be flattered if a gay person said they fancied you?
July 6, 2015 at 3:44 pm
(July 6, 2015 at 3:36 pm)Rev. Rye Wrote: I'm not. Admittedly, I spent my high school years in a parochial boy's only school, and a lot of the boys flirted with me. I did not enjoy it. I estimate that of my 200-strong graduating class, about half of them made a pass at me at some point. Sadly, when I declined them, quite a few did not simply stop, with a few going so far as groping me and even one incident where a student grabbed me from behind and dry-humped me against my will. Of course, since we were both clothed when he did it (and he couldn't be bothered to pull my clothes away), I'm not sure if it technically counts as rape.
Still, I'm well aware that most gay people will at least know not to keep at it when flirting with a straight person, and likely a lot of what I had to go through was closer to prison sexuality than regular gay people, but it still brings up bad times for me.
I'm sorry to hear about your experiences, it sounds horrible  I like to flirt with straight guys but only if they're reciprocating. And the purpose of the poll is just to understand the different viewpoints.
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RE: Would you be flattered if a gay person said they fancied you?
July 6, 2015 at 3:46 pm
I'd be flattered
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RE: Would you be flattered if a gay person said they fancied you?
July 6, 2015 at 4:10 pm
TBH, I'd probably have no idea what was going on, I'd be flirting back without knowing it.
I am absolutely clueless when it comes to people flirting with me and me flirting back. Aloof to the extreme. When I do notice, I am even more flattered than when a woman flirts with me. Probably because women flirt with me all the time (according to my GF) and in TN most gay guys aren't forward enough to flirt with a guy in a neutral setting.
Once, when I was on the beach in SD, I was shirtless and we were playing a pickup volleyball game, and a guy on my team was talking with me. We were talking about football, laughing and joking, and then he touched my breasticle. I realized he was flirting, for like 15 minutes. I immediately got all giggly and awkward. We had a good laugh about it, but I was clueless.
I remain aloof.
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RE: Would you be flattered if a gay person said they fancied you?
July 6, 2015 at 4:14 pm
I'd be flattered if a gay man said that he fancied me. But I would feel quite differently if he did not take "no" for an answer with something along the lines of Rev. Rye's experiences occurring.
The only time that a gay man propositioned me was a total stranger. People who know me somehow know I am not gay. Not having good gaydar myself, I am not sure how it is that people know such things, but people who know me at all always know I am not gay. So I am not offended at all that gay men who know me do not say they fancy me. What would be the point of them saying such a thing when they know it isn't going anywhere?
Now, if a lesbian said she fancied me, I would really be flattered. (Of course, that happening at all would suggest that she is really bisexual, not a lesbian.) It still would not go anywhere, as I am happily married and intend to stay that way. Still, lesbians have said that they liked me (in a platonic way), and I am pleased about that. It is the most one can reasonably expect.
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RE: Would you be flattered if a gay person said they fancied you?
July 6, 2015 at 4:17 pm
I'm bi. So like, whatever 
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RE: Would you be flattered if a gay person said they fancied you?
July 6, 2015 at 4:21 pm
Why wouldn't you be?
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