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Fears that affect your life?
August 26, 2023 at 9:47 am
Do you have any fears, whether rational or irrational, that impact how you live your life?
Are there fears you wished you didn't have?
Have you successfully overcome any fears? How?
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RE: Fears that affect your life?
August 26, 2023 at 9:59 am
The biggest fear I ever dealt with was fear of violence from my parents. The last episode of violence I was in my early 20s and it happened in front of my two daughters. Even when dad was dying, I was feeding him and apparently was too fast. He snapped at me and I backed away with the quickness. It didn't matter that we had worked through a lot and he was physically unable to hurt me anymore. It was just reflex on my part...that certain tone of voice and I went into flight mode.
Dad's been gone 14 years and I cut contact with mom about 20 years ago.
The threats were removed.
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RE: Fears that affect your life?
August 26, 2023 at 10:48 am
That's a sad story. I'm sorry you had that background. I'm glad you are away from those threats.
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RE: Fears that affect your life?
August 26, 2023 at 11:05 am
As I've aged I have developed anxiety/fear of the unknown.
That and broken hips.
Being told you're delusional does not necessarily mean you're mental.
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RE: Fears that affect your life?
August 26, 2023 at 11:07 am
I have problems with social anxiety. I think a lot was an artifact of growing up with mental illness which meant that I avoided sharing with people when I was young.
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RE: Fears that affect your life?
August 26, 2023 at 12:37 pm
I stopped being afraid my father would kill. He wasn't very good at it.
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RE: Fears that affect your life?
August 26, 2023 at 12:47 pm
(This post was last modified: August 26, 2023 at 12:50 pm by BrianSoddingBoru4.)
Losing my sight is my biggest fear.
I wish I didn’t have the constant fear that I’m going to lose control and snap the neck of the next person that tells me, ‘You only say you don’t like guacamole because you haven’t tried MY guacamole’
I lost the fear of death by living through things that should have killed me.
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RE: Fears that affect your life?
August 26, 2023 at 1:51 pm
(August 26, 2023 at 12:47 pm)BrianSoddingBoru4 Wrote: Losing my sight is my biggest fear.
I wish I didn’t have the constant fear that I’m going to lose control and snap the neck of the next person that tells me, ‘You only say you don’t like guacamole because you haven’t tried MY guacamole’
I lost the fear of death by living through things that should have killed me.
Boru
Losing my sight would terrify me, not sure how I would manage, also super squeamish about anything to do with my eyes (could never even think about contact lenses) Didn't help when my optician told me I was showing early signs of developing cataracts! I'm probably 10 years from needing surgury, but the idea of someone taking a scalpel to my eyes is unimaginable
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RE: Fears that affect your life?
August 26, 2023 at 2:08 pm
Someone once told me that they'd rather lose their sight than their hearing because you could still talk and take in information through your ears. I suppose there's some merit to that.