Life Is Short; Have an Affair

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How dare he treat you like that There's no excuse for that kind of behaviour. I understand how manipulative people can seem genuinely sorry, and be convincing that they won't do it again. My father is one of those. But when it comes to it, you're either the kind of person who can screw someone over without a second thought, or you're not. I'm glad you have a zero tolerance policy now!

Of course I'm not advocating throwing someone out the window as soon as there is a misunderstanding. My wife and I have them all the time, it's unavoidable. The important thing is whether the intent to deceive is there.

The only times I've ever deceived my wife, that I'm aware of, have been when I have a secret present or surprise planned! I find even that really hard. I had built myself up to propose to her when she got home from work. Unexpectedly, she phoned and asked me to come visit her at lunchtime. I did, and I felt like my head was going to explode from having to keep the secret in! I felt for sure she would know something was going on. Somehow, I pulled it off, and she was very surprised when she got home and I could propose properly the way I had planned