RE: How would you react to a gay person who found you TOTALLY repulsive ?
September 27, 2015 at 1:46 pm
(September 27, 2015 at 1:38 pm)emjay Wrote:(September 27, 2015 at 1:04 pm)Pyrrho Wrote: This. Why does the person feel the need to be a total asshole and tell you that? If I find someone repulsive, I do not generally feel compelled to tell the person.
I can see doing something like that if the person is hitting on you and does not want to take "no" for an answer. Then telling the person that they are repulsive may be warranted. But not without something like that that provokes the insult.
Some people just seem to get a kick out of being brutally honest about everything without regard to social conventions. There was one guy at college who was like that and he was a right pain in the arse. To him I would like to have said, little white lies and politeness exist for a reason.
I'd never feel the need or desire to say that to someone unprovoked, but maybe if I was under threat somehow. So another one to add, from a gay perspective, is when straight guys who think they're all that are taking the piss, then it's quite satisfying to turn the tables and see their faces drop
In this sort of case, one typically can completely avoid dishonesty and just not say anything about the appearance of others. I usually do not go about offering my opinion on the appearance of others, regardless of whether I find the person attractive, repulsive, or indifferent.
If you meet someone like him again, you might want to memorize this phrase to respond to any unprovoked crap from him or her:
"If I want your opinion, I will ask for it."
"A wise man ... proportions his belief to the evidence."
— David Hume, An Enquiry Concerning Human Understanding, Section X, Part I.
