I don't care who (besides my wife) finds me attractive, I don't expect anyone to. If such an extreme opinion of my unattractiveness was handed out unprovoked, I'd find it rude and unnecessary.

Gay man, OK what else ya got.
Gay woman, confused.
Bisexual, really confused.
Asexual, yeah buddy, How You Doin!

(September 27, 2015 at 1:01 pm)Thena323 Wrote:

(September 27, 2015 at 12:37 pm)Exian Wrote: Yeah, I'd be a little hurt. What's funny is gay men are more up front about telling me what they think of me (usually when it's good stuff), and I have no clue what women think about me, so really gay men are my only experience with getting outwardly hit on. I only find out what a girl thinks of me through my sister. She's an awesome wing man.

Nice bill you've got there,btw. Love the slope.
Care to discuss this further over dinner? I have breadcrumbs.

Why, Thena, I had no idea you were a gay man. Dinner sounds lovely.

I suppose wording makes a big difference too.

If I said you were attractive, your feelings might be more positive than if I said I wanted to ejaculate in your mouth.

And the flip side, if I said you weren't particularly attractive might go over better than me indicating I'd rather chop my arm off than stick it in your butt.

(September 27, 2015 at 1:19 pm)Exian Wrote:

(September 27, 2015 at 1:01 pm)Thena323 Wrote: Nice bill you've got there,btw. Love the slope.
Care to discuss this further over dinner? I have breadcrumbs.

Why, Thena, I had no idea you were a gay man. Dinner sounds lovely.

Although it occurs to me upon reflection, even if chopped off, it could still wind up lodged in your rectum . . .

(September 27, 2015 at 1:04 pm)Pyrrho Wrote:

(September 27, 2015 at 12:29 pm)emjay Wrote: It wouldn't be nice coming from anyone, gay or straight, man or woman, because I'd wonder why they'd felt the need actually come out and say that they thought I was repulsive... it's not the polite thing to do so I'd probably take it as an insult. ...

This.  Why does the person feel the need to be a total asshole and tell you that?  If I find someone repulsive, I do not generally feel compelled to tell the person.

I can see doing something like that if the person is hitting on you and does not want to take "no" for an answer.  Then telling the person that they are repulsive may be warranted.  But not without something like that that provokes the insult.

Some people just seem to get a kick out of being brutally honest about everything without regard to social conventions. There was one guy at college who was like that and he was a right pain in the arse. To him I would like to have said, little white lies and politeness exist for a reason.

I'd never feel the need or desire to say that to someone unprovoked, but maybe if I was under threat somehow. So another one to add, from a gay perspective, is when straight guys who think they're all that are taking the piss, then it's quite satisfying to turn the tables and see their faces drop

I've never spent a hell of a lot of time worrying about the good opinions of others. If someone finds me unattractive, they can carry their happy ass out the door.

And maybe I should point out the OP stated:

". . . would you want to know?"

(September 27, 2015 at 1:28 pm)vorlon13 Wrote: I suppose wording makes a big difference too.

If I said you were attractive, your feelings might be more positive than if I said I wanted to ejaculate in your mouth.

And the flip side, if I said you weren't particularly attractive might go over better than me indicating I'd rather chop my arm off than stick it in your butt.

The thing is, I would rather you chop off your arm than stick it in my butt.  So we will be on the same page if you feel that way, too.

You are right that how one says something makes a difference, but, really, though, I question the need to tell someone that you find the person repulsive.  Why do that?  What purpose does it serve?  Sure, I can think of circumstances under which it would make some sense, but in most cases, it seems to be unnecessary rudeness.

As a general rule, I do not tell people who I find repulsive that I find them repulsive.  There is generally no need to do that.  The world has more than enough unpleasantness in it already, so why add more that serves no purpose?