Facing a dilemma

[Kingpin]

From what investigators told me he has two other adult children that have moved away and he lives alone in an apartment and works cash jobs as a handyman.

With all due respect to your mother (I would consider such an act a compliment to her of the highest order, anyway), are you sure  you're not the mailman's kid?

How did a guy like you emerge from a lineage like that? 

Prison might be a step-up, for him. Max Security camps (where he'll be going) are definitely "kingdoms of the sociopath".

You must have missed it in my first post, he was my step-father.  I'm not from him in any way, but was despised by him in every way.  Thank you for the compliment though.  I like to think I am who I am because of what I went through.  Yes it was horrible, and I've only given you guys the cliffs notes version (teens weren't so good either), but I've had a lot of character building moments that could have honestly gone either way.  My goal is to be the best father I can, give my kids something I never got.  I think that's a goal for a lot of parents.  At the same time, teach them about respect, consequences and forgiveness.  If we don't forgive people that have wronged us we give that person an opportunity to live rent free in our heads.  It was a lesson I had to learn the hard way.  So despite my troubles, I think I've come out better because of them.