RE: Some parental advice from all the lovely parentals? Non parentals also welcome :D
October 3, 2015 at 5:20 pm
(October 3, 2015 at 4:37 pm)Cecelia Wrote: Certainly not like the ones that would jump at this opportunity without thinking about it, and not even take time to talk to their kids about it.
That's what my parents did. They rode me like a horse, and my feelings never even came into consideration. They wanted a successful child, and I was a means to that end. Of course, there were other issues with my parents, but I ended up becoming an extreme underacheiver. I also ended up with a strong resentment towards my parents.
I just think you can't discount a child's opinion, no matter what the age. If you try to force them to do things they don't want to, that can backfire. Sometimes it's best to let them go at their own pace. That's not to say you shouldn't do all you can to push her to choose to move ahead, but if she strongly objects, forcing her to do it could be unhealthy for your relationship.
Even if the open windows of science at first make us shiver after the cozy indoor warmth of traditional humanizing myths, in the end the fresh air brings vigor, and the great spaces have a splendor of their own - Bertrand Russell
