Unromantic Atheism?

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I don't believe in the idea that there is one perfect person for everyone and no one else would come close; I consider it far more of a continuum.

In my opinion the most important part of a relationship is enjoying each other's company. Just being with the person should make you feel happy, you should make each other laugh, and always support each other and work together rather than clash.

I think that if you have all of this, then you have the makings of a long term relationship. It seems to me too many people dive into bed together based on superficial qualities, and then expect things to work out in the long term somehow. Of course there's nothing wrong with just having fun and not looking for something serious. But if your aims are to find a long term partner, this is about the worst way to go about it in my opinion.

I think once you have met the person who is right for you, love and romance are very likely to follow naturally. They are your body's way of telling you that you are indeed with the right person. I've felt what it's like to be with the wrong person, and my body was telling me to GTFO. I'm not suggesting emotions should make decisions for you, but they are often prompts that you are either doing well or else that you're trying to bury problems.

I try to show my love every day to my wife, and it comes very naturally to do so. Traditional romantic things I find harder, as I'm just not great at thinking of special ideas. But I try my best to make lovely gestures now and again! I would hope that the way I treat my wife every day would be considered romantic.