Unromantic Atheism?

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I would generally assume that anyone who claims to be an absolutely perfect couple in every way is most likely overcompensating due to insecurity.

Nothing is perfect, no one is perfect and no relationship is perfect. The most important things are being able to communicate well to overcome difficulties and get back on track; and to be flexible enough to compromise. Of course, if someone is expecting drastic changes from you, that is a very bad sign in my opinion.

Personally, I never "argue" with anyone, I just discuss. This is a general rule, and also applies to my relationships. If someone is too emotional to be able to talk to me without shouting or being ridiculous, I wait until they calm down before resuming. In a relationship I always talk completely honestly and openly, and to bring up any concerns I have as soon as possible. I think it's bottled up issues that lead to problems. If a problem is so big that it ultimately requires breaking up, finding this out sooner is better than later.

Being single and being in a relationship both have their pros and cons. Trying to be in a relationship when you still have the mindset of being single is a bad idea, I know from experience. Being single is easier and makes things simpler, entering a relationship is always something of a risk. No one can ever predict how it will work out. At various points in my life I "decided" I always want the freedom of being alone, but then I've changed my mind. Once I got being single out of my system, and all the freedom it entails, I found out I really want to be with someone. I had several disastrous relationships, before finally finding my lovely wife. Each failed relationship taught me about myself, what elements I need in a relationship, what I can't compromise on and what sort of person would make me happy.