(January 10, 2016 at 8:16 pm)*Deidre* Wrote:Aye. False accusations are becoming worryingly common lately. Sexual assault towards men is also something that is rarely discussed, which definitely needs to change.(January 10, 2016 at 7:50 pm)Lemonvariable72 Wrote: Yes, but there is something we are missing here. Most of the time you have sex with someone, there is no pause where your like " Okay, do you agree to vaginal intercourse?" No most of the time you express consent via actions. Now for most of us this is not really a problem, because it usually pretty clear by time you get your clothes off if someone wants it or not.
Now maybe I'm a barbaric troglodyte, but if a girl invites me into the shower with her, and then starts kissing in the shower, I'm going to take that as a pretty clear sign of "I wonna fuck". Now obviously if she says stop, you stop. Unfortunately that is easier said then done. But given all of the details here it is suspicious if she actually said stop at all. Unfortunately a rape kit can not really distinguish between very vigorous sex and rape. So all we have is her word, and elements of her story seem very outlandish.
Thankfully 99.9% of rape cases are not like this, but I worry if stories like this will make it harder to take rape victims seriously.
I definitely see your point. And there are also cases that have been in the news where women have falsely accused men of rape, and that's also something not discussed enough. I tend to not make a judgment until I read/hear all the facts in cases.
"He who fights with monsters should look to it that he himself does not become a monster. For if you gaze long into an abyss, the abyss also gazes unto you."