(January 10, 2016 at 8:35 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote:(January 10, 2016 at 8:03 pm)MTL Wrote: Chad, that is ridiculous.
That means there is no more "going slowly" in a new relationship:
"Sorry, I know this is our fifth date and I haven't even kissed you, yet,
but I don't want to do ANYTHING even remotely sexual until I'm sure I want to have intercourse with you. "
Like, what???
Part of how you figure out whether or not you want to go further is by going slowly.
I've dated guys who don't always stop when they're told to stop.
But I've dated more guys who have no problem controlling themselves and being gentlemen and stopping when appropriate....if for no other reason than that they are not apes and understand consequences and don't want a record or prison time.
What you're saying is tantamount to victim blame, even if the guy goes to jail.
Sorry girls, you're not allowed to kiss your boyfriends at all, anymore,
because then you will be expected to put out,
and if you get raped, you asked for it.
What utter, utter nonsense.
Maybe you should just move to Afghanistan and be done with it...
women there are expected to keep their sexuality COMPLETELY under wraps,
lest they tempt a man to rape them...
...and even then, the woman will be stoned to death for the crime of being a rape victim,
because it was her fault,
walking around all saucy in that sexy sexy burqa, after all...
Sheesh.
This was a bit harsh, but the harshness was well deserved. Seriously Chad, I really hope you don't mean what it sounds like you mean.
I try not to get harsh unless I'm given a pretty good reason to.
