Should Gender Stereotypes be challenged?

[paulpablo]

I'd like to ask a question to my fellow males:

Why does some people, especially men, despise some qualities of masculinity such as aggression and competitiveness?

Isn't that what makes us men? Why should we deny these qualities that makes us who we are? I mean like I don't see, and I don't mean to offend anyone, any females despising their feminine qualities or anyone advocating them to be more masculine?
Is it really a bad thing to be a man?

I watch a lot of videos and read a lot of books about evolved behaviour and I've seen this sort of thing being mentioned.

In general men compete more aggressively than females do, it has something to do with the egg being more valuable than the sperm which is more disposable and many other factors that mean women tend to be selectors of the men who compete to be selected.

But also there may be environmental factors to consider, competitive aggression would increase in a situation with a lack of resources and probably decrease with more resources. If you could take a man and put him into a situation where he's rich and in a population with a lot of women his aggressive competitive nature might not kick in as much as it would if he were poor with a lack of women. (some immigrants in Germany spring to mind)

I know plenty of women who strive to be more masculine, they are lesbians usually.

Plus I'm assuming you acknowledge the men who despise competitive aggression are in the minority?  It's rare to find a man who isn't interested in at least some sort of competitive aggressive game, sport, hobby and so on. 

It's not inherently a bad thing to be a competitive aggressive man at all but what people usually observe is that there's a double edged sword when it comes to aggression and competitiveness.  It results in rape, technological progression, war, sports, crime, just different things from the same source.