Ask a fat girl 2.0

[drfuzzy]

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EP - - you seem quite bright, and often show us that you have a pleasant side.  I appreciate your support.  -- And if I ever get healthy again (I'll probably never see "fighting weight" again!) I'm getting a phoenix tattoo!

May I ask . . . how old you are?  -- Please don't think that's condescending.  But I thought I remembered a post that had me thinking you were rather young - - teens or early twenties.  

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      The reason that I ask is that I have known a LOT of bright young men who loved to debate - as if they were going into battle.  

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 They were so very certain that their point was right that they would take every objection as an attack.  (My cousin Rob is now in his 30's and can still go there -   )  I get the same feeling from you, sometimes.  I'm sure it's even harder on an internet forum, where we can't see body language or hear vocal inflection.  I hope that you learn to relax a bit - breathe - "lose" an argument sometimes - and find a way to just let insults roll off and away.  

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You might be right about that. Interesting take on it.

I'm twenty years old, it's in my profile.

There have actually been some fascinating studies on male vs. female communication.  There are differences evident even as we begin to learn how to form sentences.  Check out the work of Dr. Deborah Tannen and some of her peers - her books are hilarious, her examples (equal time male & female) will make you laugh out loud.  But as a generality - men communicate to establish status or dominance.  Women communicate to create emotional bonds.  That's why young guys love big words and skilled debate - they want to "win".  And sometimes they get really cranky when it doesn't work.  (I have known women to do the same - remember the "generality" bit - we're all human.)