Midlife Crisis?

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Perhaps being completely open with one's spouse about everything isn't always a good idea. 
Some things are probably best kept to oneself.

Or not, IDK. 
If I were an expert on marriage, I'd still be married.

I wouldn't make any general statements about it. Being completely honest works for me. In fact it couldn't work any other way. If someone can't handle me being honest, which obviously includes the less comfortable things (it's easy to be honest about nice things) then they wouldn't be a good fit for me. This has happened in the past.

Of course, I wouldn't expect or suggest everyone to do the same. It's a personal thing. Again, it's not like I broadcast every thought I have, just those that feel significant which I feel I need to talk about. Basically, if I'm feeling uncomfortable about a thought that has been lingering for a length of time, I feel I need to share it. It feels like my conscience is telling me to do so. Of course there are some weird things I think that have no bearing on anything, and there would be no point sharing them. They're not relevant to our relationship, and they wouldn't be of any interest to Emma. So I do have my own private little world going on.

I honestly believe, in my case, it has saved our relationship many times, and Emma agrees. For me, it's about being realistic regarding the kind of thoughts and feelings humans do have, instead of pretending they don't happen at all.

Oh by the way, I came up with a name for a man's mid life crisis: the manopause