You may as well be yourself, it's a strain to be anything else that in itself can be a barrier to being attractive.
I'm a little over 5'5". When I was younger and much better looking, I hardly got any 'action'. Now I'm older, fatter, and wiser; and somehow still ten times as attractive as when I was a short but otherwise strapping farm boy. Looking back, I can see it was shyness, lack of confidence, and undeveloped social skills that put me behind many of my peers romantically. Probably being brought up in a strict Pentecostal household and moving an average of twice a year had a lot to do with my lacks. But it was nothing that experience couldn't fix. Eventually I was floored one day by a younger friend expressing envy of how naturally being a (not the) center of attention at a party came to me.
It's VERY important not to become bitter towards women for not recognizing what a catch you are. No one owes you anything when it comes to love or sex. Bemoaning that women don't go for nice guys like you doesn't help, and trying to be 'one of the bad boys' won't either. Genuine confidence and not taking rejection too personally goes farther than looks. No one is everyone's cup of tea.
It took me about 20 years of only getting laid when I was hard up enough to lower my standards (which never led to anything I'm proud of, but I needed to learn lessons there, too) before things turned around for me. I'm sure you can do much better than that.
I'm a little over 5'5". When I was younger and much better looking, I hardly got any 'action'. Now I'm older, fatter, and wiser; and somehow still ten times as attractive as when I was a short but otherwise strapping farm boy. Looking back, I can see it was shyness, lack of confidence, and undeveloped social skills that put me behind many of my peers romantically. Probably being brought up in a strict Pentecostal household and moving an average of twice a year had a lot to do with my lacks. But it was nothing that experience couldn't fix. Eventually I was floored one day by a younger friend expressing envy of how naturally being a (not the) center of attention at a party came to me.
It's VERY important not to become bitter towards women for not recognizing what a catch you are. No one owes you anything when it comes to love or sex. Bemoaning that women don't go for nice guys like you doesn't help, and trying to be 'one of the bad boys' won't either. Genuine confidence and not taking rejection too personally goes farther than looks. No one is everyone's cup of tea.
It took me about 20 years of only getting laid when I was hard up enough to lower my standards (which never led to anything I'm proud of, but I needed to learn lessons there, too) before things turned around for me. I'm sure you can do much better than that.
I'm not anti-Christian. I'm anti-stupid.
