RE: Help to de-convert!
August 3, 2016 at 8:16 am
(This post was last modified: August 3, 2016 at 8:20 am by bennyboy.)
It may be an unconscious passive aggression-- he may know that you disapprove of his new world view, and be willing to leave it "in God's hands" whether you will come around to his view or eventually push him away. In that case, he can think he supported you, he gave you free choice, you missed the call to God, and he's off scott free without having to stick around and help someone he loved through a very hard time.
In other words, I suspect the whole X-tian thing is a front for good ol' cowardice, and that anything you say will only accentuate his guilt, make him even more flighty, and make him act even more religiously buggy. Eventually, he'll start sacrificing sheep in the living room and speaking in tongues, until you take the hint and leave.
Now, I don't know him, and I could be 100% wrong. But I don't think I am. His behavior is too inconsistent with loving support, and too consistent with passive aggression. Maybe he loves you too much, feels helpless, and is on tilt. But I don't think there's anything you can do to get beyond it except to get cancer-free; but if he's not there through that period, then you need to wonder-- not if he loves you, but if he's worth keeping around.
In other words, I suspect the whole X-tian thing is a front for good ol' cowardice, and that anything you say will only accentuate his guilt, make him even more flighty, and make him act even more religiously buggy. Eventually, he'll start sacrificing sheep in the living room and speaking in tongues, until you take the hint and leave.
Now, I don't know him, and I could be 100% wrong. But I don't think I am. His behavior is too inconsistent with loving support, and too consistent with passive aggression. Maybe he loves you too much, feels helpless, and is on tilt. But I don't think there's anything you can do to get beyond it except to get cancer-free; but if he's not there through that period, then you need to wonder-- not if he loves you, but if he's worth keeping around.
