That Sex Thread
May 9, 2011 at 6:32 pm
(This post was last modified: May 9, 2011 at 6:34 pm by prayforme.)
I find it interesting that my first true post on this forum has nothing to do with atheism, but here it goes:
So I'm a 25 year old (straight) male looking back at my past 7 or so years wishing I would have taken my chances for no-strings-attached encounters, particularly during college. I didn't and I deeply regret it, however, I am in a long-term open relationship that has recently become long-distant for the next year or so. My partner is pursuing an internship out in a different state for this duration and we agreed to allow some fooling around while we're "single". Neither of us are fond of the traditional monogamous style relationship (as it pertains to sexuality) so there's no problem there.
My problem is that my experience in the world of single life is slim to none. A couple days ago I did hook up with a woman at a party that was visiting from out of state. Unfortunately, I was too drunk to really appreciate what had happened (and probably didn't perform to the best of my ability as a consequence). And today, for better or for worse, I took a chance by texting her for one last go around before she leaves (no beating around the bush). So far I've had no response and I doubt I will get any, but I'd like to get a consensus of sorts from members here as to the appropriateness of second-night stands. In this particular case, I perceived the risk as minimal as it's likely that I'll never see her again. But it's always good to get an outside opinion.
Since I would like to get into the hunt, so to speak, I have also set my sights on a coworker or two. This is bound to get a mixed response but I'd still like to hear what everyone thinks about that.
And finally, please share your thoughts or suggestions about the single life in general. I'm at a point in my life where I realize my window for such encounters is beginning to close (at least with any frequency) but have yet to truly enjoy it. I'm starved for it and my patience with myself is wearing rather thin.
So I'm a 25 year old (straight) male looking back at my past 7 or so years wishing I would have taken my chances for no-strings-attached encounters, particularly during college. I didn't and I deeply regret it, however, I am in a long-term open relationship that has recently become long-distant for the next year or so. My partner is pursuing an internship out in a different state for this duration and we agreed to allow some fooling around while we're "single". Neither of us are fond of the traditional monogamous style relationship (as it pertains to sexuality) so there's no problem there.
My problem is that my experience in the world of single life is slim to none. A couple days ago I did hook up with a woman at a party that was visiting from out of state. Unfortunately, I was too drunk to really appreciate what had happened (and probably didn't perform to the best of my ability as a consequence). And today, for better or for worse, I took a chance by texting her for one last go around before she leaves (no beating around the bush). So far I've had no response and I doubt I will get any, but I'd like to get a consensus of sorts from members here as to the appropriateness of second-night stands. In this particular case, I perceived the risk as minimal as it's likely that I'll never see her again. But it's always good to get an outside opinion.
Since I would like to get into the hunt, so to speak, I have also set my sights on a coworker or two. This is bound to get a mixed response but I'd still like to hear what everyone thinks about that.
And finally, please share your thoughts or suggestions about the single life in general. I'm at a point in my life where I realize my window for such encounters is beginning to close (at least with any frequency) but have yet to truly enjoy it. I'm starved for it and my patience with myself is wearing rather thin.
