That Sex Thread

[Doubting Thomas]

I think monogamy is a good thing as long as both partners are sexually tuned to each other. That is, they both have equal sexual appetites. But that's rarely the case. In my own marriage, my wife is not up to it as much as I am. I would enjoy it three times a week or so, whereas she's OK with once a week or less. Plus I'm far more adventurous in bed where she is content with the same way every time. Of course I think a lot of that probably goes back to her Catholic upbringing, where all sex was considered dirty, evil, and disgusting. I never fell for that, though, since how could something so enjoyable be so bad?

I believe that scientists have said that it's natural for a man to be attracted to many different females and it's actually monogamy that's not natural. If you look at a lot of mammals in the animal kingdom, you can see groups of one dominant male who gets to shag all the females. But is it fair to a person when their spouse isn't interested in sex, but they don't want their spouse to have sex with anyone else, either?

I'm not saying that I'd ever cheat on my wife, nor would I advocate anyone else doing so, but I can understand the reasons why some do. I think open relationships are OK for those who are in them, but I personally don't know how they deal with getting rid of jealousy.