(August 20, 2016 at 1:28 pm)Rhythm Wrote:(August 20, 2016 at 1:11 pm)Alasdair Ham Wrote: You mean express your true self as opposed to false self to someone you feel comfortable with -- and consider trustworthy enough towards -- to do so?More particularly, to anyone...everyone..not just people you trust or feel comfortable with. You do need...to get hurt, to feel that, to make yourself okay with it, if you want to climb out of the hole. There's just no reason to misrepresent yourself to people. You can decide not to represent yourself at all rather than make shit up or embellish what it is, for whatever reason. I mean, unless you just want to fuck with them because it's funny or they deserve it, or it might get you layed. "Hey baby, I'm an astronaut, wanna see my spaceship?".
Quote:Hmm. I never knew falling in love with someone could cure narcissism!
It can't..but we're talking about NPD, remember..not narcissism...and btw, it's difficult to fall in love woith someone if you never truly tell them who you are. Imagine that you pull it off. It;s a life sentence confined to the cell of your own making - now you've actually got to -be- that motherfucker you kept telling people you -were-. What happens when she finds out you're not...and are you really so damned good at what you do that it will never happen? Such is the internal paranoia of the afflicted....driving them..ultimately, to double and triple down on their disorder. I -narrowly- escaped that..I was desperately trying to get myself hitched to my highschool sweetheart at the time. She never knew me, I never gave her the chance to. It would have been even worse after my break. Hell, I did end up marrying my counselor, which we both agreed...long after all the subsequent tears and child I never see, that this may not have been a very good idea.
It;s best, imo, to think about love, or pursue love, if/when you have a handle on NPD, if you've been diagnosed with it. Jumping the gun on that is a recipe for misery for all parties involved. Start small..with -actual- friends, lol.
Rhythm, that's not what love is. Well, not what love love is. The kind of love poems speak of catches you unawares. You never ever have a choice in the matter. Believe me. You can try to love a person as much as you want, it doesn't work like that.
