Understanding Narcissism

[Excited Penguin]

 A lot of people bashing on narcissists are just jealous.  

Everyone has narcissim to a degree. For the most part, those levels are healthy. I bash on narcissists because after personally dealing with one for the last 16 years, having him drag me through the family court system, lie under oath, manipulate my family and my children, verbally and emotionally abuse me long after the relationship ended and who still manipulates judges, lawyers and psychiatrists alike, I can tell you wholeheartedly, 

I am NOT jealous. There is no jealousy to be had for someone who is that cold, ruthless and inconsiderate to the levels that he should be in jail for some of the things he has done to both myself and my children. 

Nope. The sheer amount of hell that man has put me though - a person just can't make this stuff up. And sadly, I am not alone in this.

I feel for you, Nymph. But you're judging that man for his actions, not for his character. Don't conflate the two. People can have certain debilitating qualities to a degree and still be able to function normally. I guess what I'm saying is don't paint everyone you meet that reminds you even slightly of your ex with the same brush.