RE: Understanding Narcissism
August 20, 2016 at 8:25 pm
(This post was last modified: August 20, 2016 at 8:27 pm by Whateverist.)
The funny thing for me is that my first wife was probably a bigger narcissist than I was even in my prime. I was fortunate she left. I think smoking pot accentuated my narcissism and accelerated my realization of the downside of that condition, not directly but by way of therapy. By the time I met my current wife I was quite aware that being known for the real me was as important as getting to know her. My current wife was more recently out of a bad marriage and so I suggested we do some pre-emptive couples counseling as a kind of reality check. I think it helped us get off to a good start.
As a reformed narcissist I still enjoy inflated self worth but no longer look for validation from anyone else. Whatever hand you're dealt you have challenges. I don't think dealing with narcissism has been crippling and neither do I feel a lot of remorse for anything along the way. I think I'm pretty considerate of others naturally but now I don't feel as entitled to anyone's appreciation or respect. Every now and then I still feel impulses to rage when I feel disrespected or under-appreciated. I just try to remember everyone is different and none of them are answerable to me.
As a reformed narcissist I still enjoy inflated self worth but no longer look for validation from anyone else. Whatever hand you're dealt you have challenges. I don't think dealing with narcissism has been crippling and neither do I feel a lot of remorse for anything along the way. I think I'm pretty considerate of others naturally but now I don't feel as entitled to anyone's appreciation or respect. Every now and then I still feel impulses to rage when I feel disrespected or under-appreciated. I just try to remember everyone is different and none of them are answerable to me.
