My father can't read and even turn on a computer, and despite evidence to the contrary, thinks himself to be the brightest and sanest man in the history of mankind. And yes, I think it's safe for me to say my father definitely has something going on that may be NPD or something close enough. Was often emotionally abusive to us (especially during my teenage years and early twenties) and even more abusive towards my mother, always blaming her for everything that he saw gone "wrong" in the family, even though he was the one in control of the relationship the whole time. And not once did he ever praise his own sons and daughter for anything, despite us having contributed a lot to the family and helping him out whenever he asked for it. If it was neglect and lack of praise, fair enough. I could cope with that easily. But he had to constantly put us down as well, and never admit he fucked up. Got to the point where I flirted with the idea of murdering him at one point. Thankfully, that didn't get anywhere close to building up to become a reality, but the temptation was faintly there.
Now that we live apart, things are relatively more peaceful between me and him, but I have to always be wary (in the back of my mind) not to get too involved with in activities with him. Better to always keep a distance whenever I can, so I may tolerate myself interacting with him when I have to.
Now that we live apart, things are relatively more peaceful between me and him, but I have to always be wary (in the back of my mind) not to get too involved with in activities with him. Better to always keep a distance whenever I can, so I may tolerate myself interacting with him when I have to.
