(September 19, 2016 at 10:42 pm)LadyForCamus Wrote:(September 19, 2016 at 10:00 pm)Thumpalumpacus Wrote: I never mention my molestation to anyone IRL, really. I've told three or four people over the last twenty-five years, and I hated doing it. Online, only here, and one other (now defunct) forum, have I felt comfortable enough to talk about it. But even then -- and even now -- it feels like attention-whoring and makes me deeply uncomfortable. So I'm going to shut the fuck up.
Yeah, this exactly. Maybe because sexual assault is still taboo in our society? (Is it?) I'm not sure, but it definitely always feels as if I'm appealing to emotion, or fishing for pity. It's like...nails on a chalk board just typing it out; another example of the subtle, but lasting psychological damage this kind of trauma has on people. So sorry to hear that you are an honorary club member, Thump. [emoji45] Don't ever feel that you should 'shut the fuck up' about it, or anything EVER. Sometimes these experiences are worth the discomfort of bringing up because they're relevant to the discussion, and sometimes it just feels good to get it off your chest.
Well, rightly or wrongly, I'm content to unload my cargo behind the warehouse rather than in front, mostly, for precisely the reasons you expanded upon. I've made my peace with it in my own heart, anyway, so I don't want to make it my headline, I don't want it to define me, because it doesn't.
