(September 21, 2016 at 10:10 pm)*Deidre* Wrote:(September 21, 2016 at 5:45 am)Alasdair Ham Wrote: I agree. I would say though that malicious intentions are one of the most horrific things in this world if truly malicious enough because the malicious person has no interest in improving. Also someone with good intentions can be trusted to be honest at least.
It's like the difference between being honestly mistaken about important information and repeated manipulative lying about important information. An honest person is a trustworthy person. They might not be reliable, but they're trustworthy... they aren't going to go out of their way to manipulate you repeatedly with no chance of improvement.
I value my honesty and my intentions very much and I value the honesty and intentions of other honest people very much too.
lol Of course bad intentions are well...bad. But, what I'm saying is ''intentions'' in and of themselves, are not enough in general. The end result of someone's actions, and how they treat you, is better to observe, than someone having ''good intentions.'' I've known people who say they have good intentions, but they did a lot of 'bad' things. Some people I think, use the phrase as an excuse. Not sure if this makes sense.
Good intentions aren't meaningless though because I mean... the expression "It's the thought that counts" when someone buys me a present out of love and generosity for my birthday but I don't like it carries a lot of meaning for me. It's the act of trying to be generous that matters the most to me, not whether they succeed. Kindness is effortful.
