Sort of a complicated question, I'll try to ask. How was I born me and not another?

[Cato]

So I guess no one knows the answer to my question.

Everyone has been more than polite and very understanding in their attempt to unfuck your question; it's a bullshit question and your constant dismissal, in the guise of understanding, suggests you're intentionally being obtuse. 

If you want to understand the events that led to your parents fucking, ask them. That is why who you are and not someone else. Fuck not being the kid down the street, if a different sperm cell got there faster than yours, YOU wouldn't be around to ask this insipid question. 

I am now suspect of your motivations here. I think you're trolling for a chink in the armor to fill with your notion of god. 12 pages in, I suggest you put him in a divet at your local golf course. Perhaps there, if real, he will finally be of some use.