(October 26, 2016 at 4:10 pm)LastPoet Wrote:(October 26, 2016 at 2:17 pm)Emjay Wrote: Anger and hatred are an undeniable part of human nature, so no, I don't think any less of you for feeling that way... to each their own [ways of dealing with the world]. You have your way and I have my way so it makes no difference to me... I love you just the way you are
But nonetheless, my way is different; I don't like being in anger, regardless of how justified it feels... I don't like how it makes me feel or behave, or all the stuff that it leads to... hate, blame, grudges etc. I don't want to spend my life in those states because they are unpleasant. So though I can get caught up in it just as much as anyone else, because it's human nature, as soon as I become aware of it, I try for my own sake just as much as anyone else's, to detach from it... to no longer feed it, even if it would be satisfying to do so. To step back from it and understand it and the situation as a whole, as objectively as possible. So as much as I've had grudges in the past, and wanted to and imagined getting even, I don't do that any more, ever since I realised that it was a short-term buzz that only served to keep anger, blame, and hate alive in the long term. A case of giving up a short term high for the sake of the greater good, and I've never regretted that decision... whatever shit's going on in my life I feel much more peaceful as a result. But this is just me... as I said, to each their own
You get your ass up here Emjay. What the hell? What exactly are you saying?
What do you mean?
