Two Rule Updates

[Shell B]

So you can talk about your relationship with Johnny even if he is a member of the forum? And you can call him by his name if he had disclosed it on the forum himself?

If Johnny is a member of the forum, then no, you can't talk about your relationship unless you have his permission to do so. Neither can he talk about his relationship with you without your permission.

Um, but you just said that wasn't a rule violation. I literally posted about both cases where Johnny is a member and not a member. My entire argument is that you'd be policing what people can say about their own personal lives if that personal life involves someone on the forum, which I argue is something people should police themselves, though I'm not invested enough to actually call for that to be policy. If Susie and Johnny are in a relationship and everyone knows their names, and Susie says "I'm fucking Johnny." what does that have to do with the forum? Sure, Johnny can feel put out with Susie if it wasn't something he wanted disclosed, but it's not doxxing, and not hurting Johnny more than the typical pangs of gossip. Johnny can do exactly what he could do in any other social situation–confirm, deny or ignore. Does Susie get banned because she's fucking Johnny, but Johnny doesn't want anyone to know? That's weird to me. Those are the kind of things I think grownups can and should handle themselves. Feasibly, you could disclose to the forum that I'm grieving the death of a family member or something, and I could report you for disclosing personal information, even though it's not doxxing, when I should just ask you privately not to talk about things I don't want you to talk about. See what I mean? I'm not trying to make your jobs more convoluted or get you to change a rule. I'm just expounding upon my earlier off-hand comments.