RE: The Simple Life Lessons Game.
November 21, 2016 at 10:16 am
(This post was last modified: November 21, 2016 at 10:20 am by Edwardo Piet.)
Those who truly love you will love you for you and they will define your happiness as what you want rather than what they want for you.
The person who says "I just wanted you to be happy" and their definition of happiness is what they wanted for you... does not truly love you. They feel sad because they are disappointed in themselves only for their own inability to succsessfuly prevent you from behaving in a way that didn't disappoint them so much. They feel like it's your job to be a friend to them but rather than being a friend to you back they act like your savoir. They're like the Christian who says they love you but only really wants to save you from your "sins" to demonstrate their superiority. They're analogous to that even if they're an atheist.
The person who says "I just wanted you to be happy" because they feel sad because they feel disappointed in themselves for disappointing you... for failing as a friend... that person truly loves you and cares about you. Rather than wanting what they personally think is best for you as if they somehow get to decide when they don't they instead want you to be genuinely happy and have what you want for yourself. They may have behaved like someone who wasn't a friend but in their heart they recognize that... hence their feeling they disappointed you and their genuinely having wanted what's best for you. They're like the very loving and lovable character Lenny in Of Mice and Men who truly loves and cares about people but hugs them to death.
Life is confusing and sometimes the only way to make it feel slightly less confusing is to learn to live with the confusion.
The person who says "I just wanted you to be happy" and their definition of happiness is what they wanted for you... does not truly love you. They feel sad because they are disappointed in themselves only for their own inability to succsessfuly prevent you from behaving in a way that didn't disappoint them so much. They feel like it's your job to be a friend to them but rather than being a friend to you back they act like your savoir. They're like the Christian who says they love you but only really wants to save you from your "sins" to demonstrate their superiority. They're analogous to that even if they're an atheist.
The person who says "I just wanted you to be happy" because they feel sad because they feel disappointed in themselves for disappointing you... for failing as a friend... that person truly loves you and cares about you. Rather than wanting what they personally think is best for you as if they somehow get to decide when they don't they instead want you to be genuinely happy and have what you want for yourself. They may have behaved like someone who wasn't a friend but in their heart they recognize that... hence their feeling they disappointed you and their genuinely having wanted what's best for you. They're like the very loving and lovable character Lenny in Of Mice and Men who truly loves and cares about people but hugs them to death.
Life is confusing and sometimes the only way to make it feel slightly less confusing is to learn to live with the confusion.
