RE: The Newly Departed thread: announcements (departures)
December 4, 2016 at 5:49 pm
(This post was last modified: December 4, 2016 at 6:05 pm by Edwardo Piet.)
(December 4, 2016 at 5:04 pm)Shell B Wrote: https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Ger...000000.pdf
Excessive reassurance seeking is excessive, of course.
I tend to not seek it but very much appreciate it when I receive it. I certainly don't want to discourage anyone from cheering me up when I'm down
If I ever do seek it I don't think it's to an excessive amount. I think I'm more of a reassurer than a reassured actually
It's a wonderful thing when it's non-excessive and not actively sought.
(December 4, 2016 at 5:30 pm)Thena323 Wrote: @ Alasdair
It would probably be best to make an effort to avoid letting your mood/general outlook rise and fall according to what some twerps online say or think about you. (And yes, I count myself amongst the "twerps" in this context). And perhaps not be so quick to call someone who you happen to exchange friendly posts with, "friend".
It's a setup for disappointment, really.
There are many people I like, admire, and enjoying engaging with on this forum...doesn't mean they're friends. Would the majority of them be willing to do almost anything within their power to help me, and I for them? Nah.
It pays to be realistic about these things.
There are friends and there are close friends.
There are some close friends who would help me if they could, and I would do the same for them, yes.
Certainly the majority of people here wouldn't. But it's about quality not quantity.
I think that basically I'm very emotionally mature because I'm very comfortable with expressing all my feelings. I believe there are no wrong feelings and it's okay to express them all. I think people mistake my emotionality for oversensitivty. I think that I'm a lot more comfortable with my emotions than the vast majority of people. It seems so extremely common for people to fear their emotions.... whether it's anger, or not feeling like they can cry... or fear of having a panic attack, or whatever. I'm comfortable with all my emotions no matter how up and down. And I express myself honestly and openly and I think that's very healthy. Keeping things inside is very bad for us. I don't feel resentment or any other chronic negative emotions because I just express them when they're there... I don't let them eat me away. I tell my friends how I feel and tell them they can do the same.
I dunno, I don't get it. I just think what works for me and what works for others works for others. I know what I'm doing and what's good for me
