RE: The Newly Departed thread: announcements (departures)
December 4, 2016 at 7:16 pm
(This post was last modified: December 4, 2016 at 7:46 pm by Edwardo Piet.)
I'm sure I'm not excessively seeking it. I don't think I'm really seeking it per se at all. I just like it. I don't need it. It's just helpful and nice, of course.
I like being me.
I really think expressing my feelings honestly and openly rather than holding them in is healthy. I really think not needing reassurance but accepting it rather than rejecting it when it's helpful is healthy. I think if I told someone to fuck off when I was in a bad mood and they were there to reassurance me rather than allowing them to cheer me up that would be bad.
It's all about balance. I shouldn't excessively seek reassurance but I don't think I should stop appreciating it either. What works for you works for you, what works for me works for me. The professionals would not tell me that accepting and appreciating reassurance rather than rejecting it is healthier. They would tell me that excessive reassurance seeking is unhealthy. But I am not doing that. I don't seek it at all. I am just glad that I've had it in hindsight and wouldn't discourage it.
ETA: I've never thought that anyone has hurt me. I'm just expressing feelings of hurt. Feelings are irrational. What I feel is not what I believe. My feelings don't represent me. I'm fine no matter how I feel. It's okay to not be okay. It's okay to feel upset. It's okay to feel sad. It's okay to feel hurt. Emotions are often irrational. But it's better to tell people how ourselves feel than to pretend otherwise and let emotions eat away at ourselves.
ETA2: No fuckers are going to rip me a new asshole for saying I definitely have O.C. symptoms but might not have the disorder. Like I said, "O.C.D." is often used informally without actually having the disorder. If they ripped me a new asshole they'd just be telling me things I already know. And being SJWish-taking-offence-where-no-offence-was-given politically correct assholes. I know what O.C.D. is. This is why I often say I have O.C. symptoms but not O.C.D. per se. It's a pain to type out "O.C. Symptoms but not necessarily O.C.D." all the time. A compulsion to respond is a compulsion. It's hardly the only symptoms I have. I'm starting to think I should just shut up.
ETA3: Avoidance is exactly what I'm avoiding by openly expressing myself rather than holding stuff inside. I want to address everything directly. I'm certainly not the avoidant type. I reach out to people and things directly. I'm as straightforward as they come.
I also don't want anyone to condescend me or act like I can't take care of myself or need help when I'm already getting help just because I've been open and honest about my mental health problems. I'm of course already getting all the help I can get. And only myself and my doctors know exactly how much help I need and how serious it is. I don't want any of my condition to be interpreted like anyone knows the full extent of it besides myself. I can say that I'm not doing so great mentally without being told what's good for me when I already know what's good for me... right?
It's like in the past when I've been told by people I won't accept help just because I don't agree with a piece of advice and I'm already getting help.
It's the only sort of thing that makes me regret being so open. I'm not asking for advice. Reassurance is a lot better than advice because reassurance actually helps and tells me something I don't already know. I don't need reassurance but it does help when I'm down to be cheered up. People reassure each other for a reason. I don't want to be made into a strawman. I feel like I can't even explain the most basic thing. It's really simple... liking reassurance and having it cheer us up is not the same as needing it. I don't need unsolicited advice when I know what's good for me.
I like being me.
I really think expressing my feelings honestly and openly rather than holding them in is healthy. I really think not needing reassurance but accepting it rather than rejecting it when it's helpful is healthy. I think if I told someone to fuck off when I was in a bad mood and they were there to reassurance me rather than allowing them to cheer me up that would be bad.
It's all about balance. I shouldn't excessively seek reassurance but I don't think I should stop appreciating it either. What works for you works for you, what works for me works for me. The professionals would not tell me that accepting and appreciating reassurance rather than rejecting it is healthier. They would tell me that excessive reassurance seeking is unhealthy. But I am not doing that. I don't seek it at all. I am just glad that I've had it in hindsight and wouldn't discourage it.
ETA: I've never thought that anyone has hurt me. I'm just expressing feelings of hurt. Feelings are irrational. What I feel is not what I believe. My feelings don't represent me. I'm fine no matter how I feel. It's okay to not be okay. It's okay to feel upset. It's okay to feel sad. It's okay to feel hurt. Emotions are often irrational. But it's better to tell people how ourselves feel than to pretend otherwise and let emotions eat away at ourselves.
ETA2: No fuckers are going to rip me a new asshole for saying I definitely have O.C. symptoms but might not have the disorder. Like I said, "O.C.D." is often used informally without actually having the disorder. If they ripped me a new asshole they'd just be telling me things I already know. And being SJWish-taking-offence-where-no-offence-was-given politically correct assholes. I know what O.C.D. is. This is why I often say I have O.C. symptoms but not O.C.D. per se. It's a pain to type out "O.C. Symptoms but not necessarily O.C.D." all the time. A compulsion to respond is a compulsion. It's hardly the only symptoms I have. I'm starting to think I should just shut up.
ETA3: Avoidance is exactly what I'm avoiding by openly expressing myself rather than holding stuff inside. I want to address everything directly. I'm certainly not the avoidant type. I reach out to people and things directly. I'm as straightforward as they come.
I also don't want anyone to condescend me or act like I can't take care of myself or need help when I'm already getting help just because I've been open and honest about my mental health problems. I'm of course already getting all the help I can get. And only myself and my doctors know exactly how much help I need and how serious it is. I don't want any of my condition to be interpreted like anyone knows the full extent of it besides myself. I can say that I'm not doing so great mentally without being told what's good for me when I already know what's good for me... right?
It's like in the past when I've been told by people I won't accept help just because I don't agree with a piece of advice and I'm already getting help.
It's the only sort of thing that makes me regret being so open. I'm not asking for advice. Reassurance is a lot better than advice because reassurance actually helps and tells me something I don't already know. I don't need reassurance but it does help when I'm down to be cheered up. People reassure each other for a reason. I don't want to be made into a strawman. I feel like I can't even explain the most basic thing. It's really simple... liking reassurance and having it cheer us up is not the same as needing it. I don't need unsolicited advice when I know what's good for me.
