RE: The Newly Departed thread: announcements (departures)
December 4, 2016 at 8:16 pm
(This post was last modified: December 4, 2016 at 8:19 pm by Shell B.)
If you want friends, you get advice with it. I'm not sorry for giving it, but definitely feel like you're dismissive of people's opinions about the stuff you share. I mean, we can not respond or just say "there, there" if that's what you want, but that doesn't feel friendly. It feels dismissive of your problems.
Yes, OCD is often used colloquially. People who have OCD don't like that at all. It trivializes our illness and turns it into a meme or something people can use to describe any compulsion or habit, which is bullshit. It's like when people who are sad their dog died say they are depressed. A lot of people don't like that. I wouldn't say I was retarded around retarded people and then tell them it's too bad because people use it colloquially all the time. You don't have to say obsessions or compulsions without the disorder. Just say obsession or compulsion to describe what you're talking about. This isn't an SJW thing, man. It's a stigmatizing thing. I personally don't mind very much that you do it, but people who do mind aren't being assholes. They want people to understand their disease and stop equating it with responding to people compulsively on a forum or having their pens in the correct order. I didn't spend ten days in a hospital last year because I wasn't able to respond to someone on the fucking internet.
You said a lot about repressing feelings in your response to me. I didn't say you should at all or mention that you shouldn't share what's going on, unless that wasn't directed at me. In which case, carry on.
I'll probably stop chatting to you about this stuff, because I really don't know what to say. You want to talk about your feelings, but don't want anyone to respond other than to tell you that it's all right and they like you. I'd rather not become part of that cycle. We can talk about movies or something instead.
Yes, OCD is often used colloquially. People who have OCD don't like that at all. It trivializes our illness and turns it into a meme or something people can use to describe any compulsion or habit, which is bullshit. It's like when people who are sad their dog died say they are depressed. A lot of people don't like that. I wouldn't say I was retarded around retarded people and then tell them it's too bad because people use it colloquially all the time. You don't have to say obsessions or compulsions without the disorder. Just say obsession or compulsion to describe what you're talking about. This isn't an SJW thing, man. It's a stigmatizing thing. I personally don't mind very much that you do it, but people who do mind aren't being assholes. They want people to understand their disease and stop equating it with responding to people compulsively on a forum or having their pens in the correct order. I didn't spend ten days in a hospital last year because I wasn't able to respond to someone on the fucking internet.
You said a lot about repressing feelings in your response to me. I didn't say you should at all or mention that you shouldn't share what's going on, unless that wasn't directed at me. In which case, carry on.
I'll probably stop chatting to you about this stuff, because I really don't know what to say. You want to talk about your feelings, but don't want anyone to respond other than to tell you that it's all right and they like you. I'd rather not become part of that cycle. We can talk about movies or something instead.
