RE: The Newly Departed thread: announcements (departures)
December 4, 2016 at 8:24 pm
(This post was last modified: December 4, 2016 at 8:29 pm by Edwardo Piet.)
It's fine for you to give me advice. I'm just struggling to tell you that I don't agree, is all. I just want to feel like I can say "thank you for the reassurance, it's very much appreciated." And "Thank you for the advice but I don't think it applies to me and I already know about it and you've told me before."
I agree with what you said about O.C.D. I didn't think of just saying compulsions or obsessions. I'll try to bear that in mind. It's just a force of habit to say "O.C.D." you know?
The other thing is I often say it because I think there's a high likelihood that I have it. Just because I haven't been told "You have O.C.D." by my psych doesn't mean I don't have it. I may not have had the diagnosis but I've had treatment for it. Maybe I should get a diagnosis but my psych said he doesn't like labels and prefers to focus on treatment instead of diagnosis. My obsessions and compulsions are very real whether I'm diagnosed with O.C.D. or not.
As my doctor said, even if I don't get diagnosed with any condition my mental health problems are still very real. If anyone with O.C.D. felt offended and stigmatiszed for what I said I could easily turn around and say they were being ignorant for thinking my symptoms were any less real or serious just because I am not labelled with the disorder.
Some people do get depressed when their dog dies. They may not be diagnosed with depression but it doesn't mean the depression they fall into isn't real. And if they don't recover from that depression anytime soon they may get diagnosed. And if the doctors fail to diagnose their symptoms it doesn't mean that their symptoms don't exist.
I'm not dismissive just because I disagree. It's okay for me to disagree with my friends and it's okay for them to disagree with me.
I don't want my friends to not give me advice when I ask for it... nor do I want my friends to say "there there" rather than being there for me genuinely. I very much like advice when I seek it and I very much like reassurance when it cheers me up.
I agree with what you said about O.C.D. I didn't think of just saying compulsions or obsessions. I'll try to bear that in mind. It's just a force of habit to say "O.C.D." you know?
The other thing is I often say it because I think there's a high likelihood that I have it. Just because I haven't been told "You have O.C.D." by my psych doesn't mean I don't have it. I may not have had the diagnosis but I've had treatment for it. Maybe I should get a diagnosis but my psych said he doesn't like labels and prefers to focus on treatment instead of diagnosis. My obsessions and compulsions are very real whether I'm diagnosed with O.C.D. or not.
As my doctor said, even if I don't get diagnosed with any condition my mental health problems are still very real. If anyone with O.C.D. felt offended and stigmatiszed for what I said I could easily turn around and say they were being ignorant for thinking my symptoms were any less real or serious just because I am not labelled with the disorder.
Some people do get depressed when their dog dies. They may not be diagnosed with depression but it doesn't mean the depression they fall into isn't real. And if they don't recover from that depression anytime soon they may get diagnosed. And if the doctors fail to diagnose their symptoms it doesn't mean that their symptoms don't exist.
I'm not dismissive just because I disagree. It's okay for me to disagree with my friends and it's okay for them to disagree with me.
I don't want my friends to not give me advice when I ask for it... nor do I want my friends to say "there there" rather than being there for me genuinely. I very much like advice when I seek it and I very much like reassurance when it cheers me up.
