[split] The Newly Departed thread: announcements (departures)

[Edwardo Piet]

[...]You want to talk about your feelings, but don't want anyone to respond other than to tell you that it's all right and they like you.[...]

That's not the case at all. We disagree about stuff but I wouldn't want it any other way if you genuinely disagree. I don't want everyone to agree I want everyone to be honest and speak their mind and from their hearts. Sure not everyone does that, people can hold stuff in or say white lies or whatever if they wish. But basically I'll take whatever's given and respond to it honestly. Doesn't matter whether we agree or not. And that's exactly what I'm doing. I can express disagreement and I can express my feelings and I can be honest about anything else I express too..... and that's all absolutely fine

But... bah. It certainly seems to cause a lot of misunderstandings when I disagree with folks. It must be the way I do it not that I do it. I know you're fine with me disagreeing. But that you think that I only want people to tell me everything is all right and they like me just shows that I'm really crappy at explaining myself, lol.

I want to be reassured and told it's alright and people like me but only if that's how they really feel and what they want to say. If you, or others, would rather offer advice or not reassure me that's fine too. It's not about what I want, it's about people giving me what they believe the truth is whether I like it or not. Literally whether I like it or not. I like reassurance and I also like disagreement. I just like honesty. Reassurance makes me feel better so of course I like it. I also think it's good for me when it's not excessive. I don't think there's any harm in being cheered up on occasion. But anyways... your difference of opinion with me is fine. I've just been continuing to disagree as you have and that's fine. I've been trying to explain that I'm not dismissing you, I'm just disagreeing with you and that's fine.

No one ever has to agree ever. We just have to get the truth out there and care about each other whichever way we want to show it, whether it's advice, reassurance or whatever. Whatever way we show that we're a friend to each other. It's all good. No one ever has to agree. No one is dismissing anyone. People just don't agree. And that's fine. It's never anything personal. It's just disagreement. It's super easy to disagree with me, I'm very disagreeable, lol. I find it rather ironic that other folks in my life in the past have said I have a problem with disagreement or just need to be right... because... the ironic thing is all I'm doing is persisting in disagreement like everyone else does. So what? That's the point. Disagreement is fine. No one is dismissing anyone. No one ever has to agree on anything ever. Of course people do agree. The point is whether they do or not doesn't matter. What matters is whether they truly and honestly agree. I would never pretend to agree. It's all good. No dismissal. Just disagreement. Which is as good as agreement. All we need is to speak our mind. And if people get hurt then they can say they feel hurt and that's fine too. It's all good. No one needs to be afraid of emotions or disagreement. No one is dismissed, we're all emotional, we're all human, disagreement happens, it's not personal, it's fine.