[split] The Newly Departed thread: announcements (departures)

[Edwardo Piet]

I feel bad for him, too...but not giving him some straight advice doesn't help him. Feeling sorry for people and just leaving it there, doesn't help them change and grow.

I want straight advice. I just only want it from people who can handle it when I don't necessarily agree with it. I can handle it all. I just might not agree. And that's fine with me. I don't think anyone has to agree. If I get labelled as being dismissive or not being able to handle constructive criticism when I don't agree with it then I'm not the one who has a problem with criticism or disagreement. It's highly ironic.

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It's so ironic when someone disagrees and gets told they have a problem with people who disagree with them. I'm openly saying outright: It doesn't matter whether I agree or get upset or not I still want the criticism. I just don't want people to say I have a problem with it merely when I disagree with them. That's clearly not me with the problem. I don't have to agree with what's given to me.

So many fuckers in life like that. They offer help and when you don't accept it you're the one with the problem. And yet, when I offer help I never expect anyone to agree with it and I never tell them that they have a problem with it just because they reject it. That's absolutely fine. No one has to ever agree with my advice, no one has to ever agree with my criticism, no one has to ever agree with my opinions. I'm not the one with a problem if other people say I have a problem merely when I don't agree with them. It's very ironic.

I may be sensitive but I'm aware of my sensitivity and I can handle it. That's why I outright tell people that even if I get upset I still want their opinions and criticism. I can handle both the sensitivity of myself and others. What I don't want is to be told I can't handle it when others are hypersensitive to my disagreeing with them. If I can't disagree with someone's criticism or get upset without them telling me I can't handle it when I'm literally saying I can and it's fine for them to disagree with me and I'm glad they're being honest with me then I'm not the one with a problem. It's fine for me to disagree with someone's criticism exactly like it's fine for someone else to disagree with my criticism.

I don't tell someone that they can't handle my criticism or advice merely because they don't agree with it. And yet others do that to me. And that, ironically, is someone having a problem with a difference of opinion.

P.S. And before anyone thinks I'm angry or having a meltdown merely because I'm swearing and typing in bold. They're both just me being emphatic. How obvious do I have to make my point. I'm outright telling people they can disagree with me and it's fine and yet when I don't agree with what they say I get told I have a problem! I'm outright saying that whether I get upset or not I still want to hear what they have to say whether I agree with it or not! If I'm being mislabelled as saying I have a problem with a difference of opinion or criticism when I said no such thing and in fact have outright said the exact opposite and I'm only ever been mislabelled that way when I disagree then it's the other person(s) who can't handle the fact I disagree and who has a problem with disagreement. It's extremely clear.